A Little Reminder


For a week we had a trial of something slightly different in the DD campaign.  HOH would provide a “reminder” about our tasks and goals for that day.  That reminder took the form of laying across HOH’s knee whilst she nagged and questioned about what we were going to achieve or, in the case of the pub, not going to do.  With a tautly stretched bot and the boudoir paddle applied in time to the nagging it got the message across and overall was a success.

We been talking about this again this week and how its so much better than maintenance. Actually I think its maintenance albiet under a different name.   The idea behind it is that it is preventative and helps to achieve the goals by encouragement before failing.  It works for both of us as it helps us remember every day what our goals are. Lady C is also thinking about ceasing maintenance in favour of daily reminders.

Last night we had another reminder session.   HOH also wanted me to choose the implement – “not for me to choose My Darling HOH, but it has to be a nagging implement”.   She flirted with some of the nasty ones, but ended up with the red heart shaped paddle and got off very lightly with a massage more than a spanking.   Compare that to six with her HOH strap.

Question is should HOH use her strap for daily reminders or continue with a lessor implement like the Boudoir Paddle or should it be on a day by day basis?

Unfortunately we overdid it a bit last night and managed to conviently forget our goals and targets for the day.  But it was a special occasion and HOH did state that she was being kind.  I’m sure that mistake will not be made again.

A

Maintenance With Attitude


For a while now I’ve wondered what it would be like to get the HOH Strap at full strength.    HOH has delivered a few at full strength before but only towards the end of a punishment and my ass is already throbbing.

I suggested that she performs maintenance as normal except that each stroke would be full on and not the measured 25% or 50% that she normally give.   “Are you sure?”, she asks.   “Yes”, well I was at the time.  Since maintenance has been overdue every week this year so far and this we are catching up and today is maintenance day so it should be something a bit special.

“Then that’s how it’ll be”, she says.

This morning she left for the shower with the instructions to be ready for her coming back.   Maybe she’ll have forgotten last night’s conversation I though.  Better get ready and in position anyway.   So I got ready on my elbows and knees with bum raised and strap laying across the small of my back and waited there with the bed covers still over me.

HOH walks back into the room and puts the main lights on and pulls back the covers.    Without any further delay she lifts the cold strap and with the other hand pushes me on the back urging me to stick my bum out slightly more.

“It was to be Maintenance with Attitute, wasn’t it?”,  Ok, she’s not forgotten so I kept in position not moving and said nothing.

Maintenance is normally six strokes with the HOH Strap.    The first stroke landed square across my ass, just at the really sensitive crease.   “Too low” muttered Lady C, “too damnned accurate and sore” I though.  What a difference to the usual strokes.   The others rained down, most didn’t land squarely, but number five was spectacular – just a bit higher and the first – and then because number six was another mishit she repeated it.

“Oooh, that’s toasty warm, isn’t it?”

Normally a strapping with the HOH Strap takes a discrete time for the heat to develop, but today was instant and the redness appearing not far behind.

At the time I thought that Lady C needs to practice a bit and perfect her harder strokes.   Funnily enough she send a message on her way to work that she needs practice.    During a punishment she seems to be able to do it no problem and I’ve watched over my shoulder as she gets into a rhythym and gives it her all.

Perhaps I should set up the video camera and we can strive towards perfection so that the mere mention of some hard strokes sets my pulse racing.   That’s my Darling Disciplinarian.

Birthday Celebrations


In honour of my most cherished HOH we are now having a week of birthday celebrations.  Well not quite a week, just Mon-Fri.    Its not that it is one of those special birthdays, just the fact that I’ve got holidays this week and have more time to relax, plan and blog.

The daily celebrations start with the fitting of the Dicktator of the day, and then a dose of maintenance.  HOH has the option to add additional strokes.    There is also a list of tasks for the HOH Board and some treats for C.

Daily Dicktation is something that we’ve done only once or twice.   Quite often especially on a day off when C is working I get quite horny and have an over powering desire to have a play.   Having a chastity device on whilst C is working means that that horniness is harnessed and is available to C to enjoy when she gets home.   Its not 24×7 chastity but it does add an extra dimension to the situation.

Maintenance has been a bit behind for the last 3 or 4 months and we’ve never caught up properly.    By my counting performing maintenance every day this week will allow us to fully catch up and that includes this weeks maintenance.

The last few months have been extremely hectic, both with family life and work life.  We have very little quality time together and the house is looking neglected.    Hence the HOH Board.  I brain stormed yesterday for things that needed to be done and stopped when I had thirty items.  Getting some of these done will be nice for C, and overall might actually give us some inspiration to do more.

The final part of C’s week of treats is the birthday spanking.   She was a bit confused until I pointed out to her that it would be my bum getting the birthday swats.   That definately put a smile on her face.

As for the other treats, well so far they’ve definately put a smile on her face too 😉

Getting Started In Domestic Discipline Part 3


The first two parts have been consolidated here and are probably most of what any beginners to DD need to know.   In this part I’m going to finish up by discussing Boot Camps and some other bits and pieces that don’t really fit in anywhere else.

Boot Camps

We don’t do these correctly, however who’s to say any other way is wrong either.   The purpose of Boot Camps is to have, usually, a weekend set aside when you do nothing except talk, act and sleep Domestic Discipline.   It is an opportunity to establish the HOH and take each other out of their own comfort zones.   By this I mean you will get a punishment that is very hard by your own standards or in the case of HOH have to administer it.    Trust me its harder than it sounds from both sides.

When we do boot camps we tend to have a week when maintenance is performed daily and every task or rule is taken to extremes and punishments dished out accordingly.   For us the idea is to get us back into the way of the DD routine and making sure things gets done.

However you choose to do it is entirely up to you, but do take the time to plan it out in advance and if spending an entire weekend, make sure that you don’t need to stop to go out and goto the shops or have any other things that get in the way.  For us, our weekends are precious to us and we don’t want to give them up by staying in the house all weekend.

Other Hints and Tips

Whatever you make your DD arrangement is entirely up to yourselves.   I’ve given some ideas from what we do and have found to work for us.  Its up to you to find what works for you.

Getting the rules recorded is definately something that needs to be done.  Having a strong HOH who interprates them is also important.

Don’t make up rules on the fly, think about them before hand and agree to them and try and stick to them.

Allow yourselves days off – days when you both agree you’re not going to engage in DD.

Allow flexibility in the rules and review them to ensure that they’re actually what you want to do.

Take punishment time seriously.   It is meant to deter future bad behaviour and should do so.   For the punisher, you have more than your partners consent to punish – your partner WANTS or NEEDS you to punish to acheive goals.   Don’t let them down.   For the punishee – as just mentioned you want your partner to punish you so help you acheive your goals.   Don’t be suprised when you get a call for a punishment – it is for the greater good.

Don’t let not being in a mood for a spanking get in the way.  This is not for sexual relief.

Remember this is within a loving relationship to achieve goals, don’t let it become abuse.

Initially, start with a few rules and keep them simple.   Add rules later once you get into the way of things.

How you interprate the rules is entirely up to individuals and moods.   Some go for a complete strict approach with absolutely no allowances, others go for a more relaxed approach.   We tend to stick to the relaxed approach most of the time.

Punishment time is also something that couples do differently.  Some like a weekly assessment and perform punishments at this time, whilst others like to act immediately or at the first convenient time – “Wait ’till I get you home”.    Having the best of both works too.   An immediate punishment as soon as the offence is committed, with a weekly to cover all the others.   There is also the option of having a punishment BEFORE any offence might be committed to encourage good behaviour.   Imagine you are both going out to a dinner party and you don’t want your partner getting too drunk again as they did last time… You get the idea.

Punishments don’t need to be limited to spanking bums.

Above all, don’t let anyone tell you that you’re doing it wrong.   Your Domestic Discipline arrangment is yours to do what you want to do, however if you want advice, then ask.

And lastly, enjoy your new Domestic Discipline lifestyle.   It can be rewarding, even humbling after a punishment when you both get together hug, kiss and make up.   It takes a lot of stresses and tensions out of the relationship.     You may also find that you say sorry a bit more too.

Enjoy,

A

Maintenance Mayhem


Our maintenance backlog mentioned here has been steadily reducing.   HOH thought we should manage two maintenance sessions a day until its all gets up to date.   She also thought it would be good fun to have me do it to myself as she continues to suffer with a sore arm.

Continue reading

Self Maintenance


Self Maintenance
Can a self spanking be performed in a DD context and be considered as maintenance?

Continue reading

Implement of the Week


A few weeks ago I hinted here at the “Implement of the week”.  Well C took my suggestion on board and for the  last 2 or 3 weeks there has been an implement of the week. Continue reading

Maintenance Madness


Maintenance every day for a week, that was for last week.   We decided that starting every day with maintenance would get us well and truly focused on our DD responsibilities.  Continue reading

Bootcamp Days An Update


An update on the Boot Camp Days that we’ve trying out.   We started the first review on the 4th February remotely using Skype to communicate.  The first review was a meant to be a bit of a dry run, however C took to the idea so much that she said that any missed goals or tasks would be counted and punishment would be administered as soon as it was possible. Continue reading

Early Morning Maintenance


As I mentioned yesterday C woke me before she left for work with a “six” from the tawse. This seems to have had the effect of kicking me into action and I had a very successful day getting on with chores, bit of home improvements and generally making the place better.

My enthusiasm also infected C and we also managed to be productive for day.  Not at the expense of our enjoyment, we also managed time out for a beer or two at the pub along with some fun together in bed 😉

The question is: was it early morning maintenance that did the trick or not having lots of beers on Friday night?