Every Now and Again


Every now and again I get an urge.  I’m sure others get them too.  Today’s urge, however, is for Lady C to have fun with my balls.

Squeeze, pull, slap, punch, knee or kick.  Any would do.

Uxorious


Lady C was doing a puzzle last week.  The clue was “being overly devoted to your wife”, and starting with the letter “U”.

Well, what is it demanded C?   I shall be teaching you it later.

Turns out the word is Uxorious and when you look up the definition it also means overly submissive towards your wife – exactly what I am them 😉

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Spanking Pants


I’ve written about spanking pants a few time before.    We’ve even made some crude ones.  Lady C ripped the backside out of a pair of boxers that were due for the scrap head and I’ve cut a square out of another pair.

But now we have a proper pair of spanking pants bought from here.   They’re actually very confortable and hold all my bits in place as well as plumping up the rear cheeks ready for Lady C attentions.   See if you can spot the difference in the pictures below?

BeforeNextAfterThe first was before Lady C got started with that evil wooden paddle that I made for her.  Just a few light taps she says.  That’s not how I felt it.   Then HOH decided that the tawse was required to answer for some minor breach of rules.  Together it was all a bit toasty.

The Disciplinarian


Disciplinarian : a person who is very strict about punishing bad behavior : a person who uses discipline as a way of making sure that rules or orders are obeyed.

I want Lady C to be my own personal Disciplinarian.  I need this, I want this.   I want her to help me achieve my goals through a set of goals and rules – my rules, my goals.   When I struggle to meet my goals or even to get started on them that when Lady C has to be the Disciplinarian.

Of course, just having my rules would be selfish.  Lady C needs rules too and I’m quite happy to have her enforce them too.  That’s the basis of consensual Domestic Discipline.

I’ve not decided as this point what my goal and rules are going to be, but as usual they need to be achievable and be measurable.  I see the rules as being very changeable and dynamic.  There’s lots of examples – I need to make a plan today, I don’t want to drink any more than 3 pints of beer on a particular night or I want the kitchen kept to a level of tidyness.

I’m also going to suggest some punishments and encouragements, because after all their my rules.  However, if Lady C wants to use her own or enhance mine, then I have no problem with that.

This is nothing new to us, just a refresh as to our commitment to DD and each other.

Time to go and figure out what I want to achieve with my life this week…

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A Little Reminder


For a week we had a trial of something slightly different in the DD campaign.  HOH would provide a “reminder” about our tasks and goals for that day.  That reminder took the form of laying across HOH’s knee whilst she nagged and questioned about what we were going to achieve or, in the case of the pub, not going to do.  With a tautly stretched bot and the boudoir paddle applied in time to the nagging it got the message across and overall was a success.

We been talking about this again this week and how its so much better than maintenance. Actually I think its maintenance albiet under a different name.   The idea behind it is that it is preventative and helps to achieve the goals by encouragement before failing.  It works for both of us as it helps us remember every day what our goals are. Lady C is also thinking about ceasing maintenance in favour of daily reminders.

Last night we had another reminder session.   HOH also wanted me to choose the implement – “not for me to choose My Darling HOH, but it has to be a nagging implement”.   She flirted with some of the nasty ones, but ended up with the red heart shaped paddle and got off very lightly with a massage more than a spanking.   Compare that to six with her HOH strap.

Question is should HOH use her strap for daily reminders or continue with a lessor implement like the Boudoir Paddle or should it be on a day by day basis?

Unfortunately we overdid it a bit last night and managed to conviently forget our goals and targets for the day.  But it was a special occasion and HOH did state that she was being kind.  I’m sure that mistake will not be made again.

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Maintenance With Attitude


For a while now I’ve wondered what it would be like to get the HOH Strap at full strength.    HOH has delivered a few at full strength before but only towards the end of a punishment and my ass is already throbbing.

I suggested that she performs maintenance as normal except that each stroke would be full on and not the measured 25% or 50% that she normally give.   “Are you sure?”, she asks.   “Yes”, well I was at the time.  Since maintenance has been overdue every week this year so far and this we are catching up and today is maintenance day so it should be something a bit special.

“Then that’s how it’ll be”, she says.

This morning she left for the shower with the instructions to be ready for her coming back.   Maybe she’ll have forgotten last night’s conversation I though.  Better get ready and in position anyway.   So I got ready on my elbows and knees with bum raised and strap laying across the small of my back and waited there with the bed covers still over me.

HOH walks back into the room and puts the main lights on and pulls back the covers.    Without any further delay she lifts the cold strap and with the other hand pushes me on the back urging me to stick my bum out slightly more.

“It was to be Maintenance with Attitute, wasn’t it?”,  Ok, she’s not forgotten so I kept in position not moving and said nothing.

Maintenance is normally six strokes with the HOH Strap.    The first stroke landed square across my ass, just at the really sensitive crease.   “Too low” muttered Lady C, “too damnned accurate and sore” I though.  What a difference to the usual strokes.   The others rained down, most didn’t land squarely, but number five was spectacular – just a bit higher and the first – and then because number six was another mishit she repeated it.

“Oooh, that’s toasty warm, isn’t it?”

Normally a strapping with the HOH Strap takes a discrete time for the heat to develop, but today was instant and the redness appearing not far behind.

At the time I thought that Lady C needs to practice a bit and perfect her harder strokes.   Funnily enough she send a message on her way to work that she needs practice.    During a punishment she seems to be able to do it no problem and I’ve watched over my shoulder as she gets into a rhythym and gives it her all.

Perhaps I should set up the video camera and we can strive towards perfection so that the mere mention of some hard strokes sets my pulse racing.   That’s my Darling Disciplinarian.

Determination


Lady C performed another two doses of maintenance the other morning and then carried on.   “And these two strokes are for being cheeky via email, and three for distracting me when I was trying to iron”.

Mistress Strap

Mistress Strap

Standard maintenance is six strokes with the evil HOH strap.    If maintenance is six strokes, shouldn’t a punishment be harder, longer?   At least the same?   Not that many strokes with this particular strap are needed to get the point over.

Anyway, I pointed this fact out to HOH.   I also pointed out about another infraction that she not bothered to note down or punish for.   That particular offence was having a background image on my tablet computer of a cute bum which was not C’s.   It reminds me of hers and I especially like the look over the shoulder as that is so Lady C.

She was mildly hurt by it and again I asked was this not one of the fundamental reasons for DD and doesn’t a spanked bot displace that hurt and clear the air?

The upshot of all this is that it kinda annoyed her a bit, not so much the perving at bums on tablet but telling her she was not doing discipline correctly. So when I got home Lady C was waiting for me in the bedroom and was in a more determined mood.   I would get a sore bot.  It would be very red, very stingy, and very memorable and she would not be stopping until it was so.   C has a very easy going attitute most of the time and that includes when she’s swinging straps around.  It’s almost that she doesn’t want to hurt me and just be nice.

In a strange way when C punishes hard I feel more loved than at any other time.   For a start we would not be doing this if we didn’t have a loving relationship and when its all over we ALWAYS hug.

Back to the pending punishments.    She made me fetch ten implements and lay them in front of her – the HOH Strap, Dominator Strap, Cane, Glasgow Strap, Loopy Johnny, Boudoir and wooden paddles and the three Lochgelly tawses.  “Pick two and I’ll pick two” she commands.

Boudoir PaddleI picked the dominator strap and the boudoir paddle.  She asks why I picked these two particular implements.  The dominator strap is by far the hardest and heavest implement that we have and with very little effort it has devastating results.  The boudoir paddle, by contrast, is probably one of the lightest.  Don’t get me wrong it is still very capable of producing sting.  That was chosen for its ability to colour in the rest of the bum that the strap missed or can’t easily access.   My choice was accepted even though she finds the strap quite ackward and heavy to hold, however I think the attraction of lots of sting and heat with little effort won the argument.

Her choice was her favourite HOH Strap and the wooden paddle I made recently.   She likes the paddle. It has a nice soft feel, an easy grip handle and is well balanced.  It also produces a lot of sting, not that she’s ever had it touch her bum.  The HOH Strap was no big surprise, after all it is her favourite and she knows that theres a lot in reserve beyond the standard six that she gives for maintenance.

Now it is time for my bottom to be bared.   She eventually chooses that I should get on my elbows and knees on the floor and she will stand astride me so that she can strap down my cheeks.   “How many strokes do you think?”, she asks.   “Never mind, I’ll finish when I’m happy with the result”.

I’m sure she could strap harder if she wanted, but she’s after accuracy and wants every stroke to count.  I didn’t count the strokes but it did not take too long (4 strokes) before I tried to wriggle out of the way.  There were strokes to the middle of one cheek, strokes to the other and then a few covered the middle making for a mostly all over covering.  I can’t remember how many times she ordered me back into position so that the strap could find its target again.

Next came the boudoir paddle and in the same position, it was used briskly on my already burning bum cheeks.  These were hard strokes, nothing like the power of the dominator strap but I could still feel them and before long I was wriggling to try and avoid these too.

So that was the first punishment for the bum image.   Lady C was impressed with her work so far.  A nice deep red and lots of heat.

Next I was to be punished for annoying her and being cheeky.   For this I was face down, flat on the bed.  This is a bit easier that the position for maintenance which stretches the skin over the bum making every stroke hurt like hell.   She started with the wooden paddle and just like the other implements so far had me squirming out of the way almost immediately.   Satisfied that the paddle had done its work she picked up HOH Strap and announcing that if I couldn’t stay in position she would restrain me and start over.

I was looking to my left and could see that determined look and feel the hand in the small of my back to keep me where she wanted.  Then the strokes.   She was putting quite a bit of effort into each stroke – a lot harder than maintenance – and each was landed squarely across both cheeks on the sweet spot.   After the first six I was definately feeling the need to avoid the blows, but these slow hard strokes can be easier to keep in position for than the quick fire ones that come raining down.

Eventually she stopped.  I’m unsure if she intended stopping after that particular stroke or if it was the fact that it slightly wrapped further around my cheek causing me to jump.  Either way she stopped, I hope it wasn’t because of that last stroke wrapping and she had a good look and feel and this time she was really impressed by the warmth and colour.   “You’re going to feel this tomorrow at work when you sit down and remember this punishment”.   She must have been satisfied by the overall result as she took several photographs which I’ll put up on the gallery.

With the real punishment over, it was now time for the hugs and kisses and to make ammends for the bum wallpaper by performing some worship of C’s bum and put an enigmatic smile on her face.

Do I Want More?


That’s what HOH asked the other night after using the three tailed heavy tawse across my bum.   It was an on the spot strapping for giving HOH some playful spanks on her bum.

I didn’t answer so I probably should have got more, but at the time I was trying to focus on the tawse that was pointing right in my face.

At the time I didn’t want more.  It wasn’t the hurt of the strokes, I was just very, very tired.

What I did appreciate was the instantaneous way that HOH grabbed the first implement she put on and curtly commanded that I present my ass for her.

Personally I favour these instant punishments.  They get immediately to the point and correct errant behaviour when it is still fresh in the mind. It also feels that HOH has extra power which is every sub’s dream.

So do I want more?  Yeah, at least until it hurts 😉

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Displeasure


HOH was having a bit of a rant today.   Seemingly she’s the only one that tidies up around here.   Wether she does or not is not up for discussion here.   “Are you displeased, My Darling (HOH)?”

“Yes, I am”, and started off again.   Anyway, I suggested that she meets with a suitable bottom warming implement in one of our outbuildings or cause some discomfort to my balls.

She decided on the latter specifically choosing to have my balls squished in a contraption made of two pieces of perspex with screws and wingnuts.   I don’t know the correct name for this thing, but it can be screwed very tight.

It wasn’t too tight this time and C didn’t even notice that I wasn’t squirming too much.    She did decide after 40 minutes or so that there would be an additional forfeit to help me remember to help her around the house.  This would take the form of the Dicktator.   After a bit of a struggle she managed, with a lot of help from me, to get it on and locked.

I’m thinking this was possibly the lightest punishment she could have issued.   A couple of swift slaps, light punches or kicks are far harder to take and getting back into position for the next blow is always difficult.   A strapping in one of our outbuildings would have been particularly punishing as the temperature has been down around freezing for the last couple of days and baring my bum for C to strap would be particularly sore helping C get her point over.  Think the thing that got me off the hook there was that it was cold out and we were nice and cozy in the house.

What would I rather have had?

The ball squishing in any form is not particuarly painful to endure and C is somewhat reluctant to put too much pressure on the family jewels.   That and Dicktation always seem to be a bit more of kinky sex than punishment.

A strapping, either on bum or hands, always feels more like a proper punishment. There’s ritual and just having a punishment implement out adds to the occasion.  Then there’s the strokes, that uncertainty before the first one lands and then the heat and sting.

After it, you feel punished and that justice has been served.  And that, for me, is the closure of the issue or absolution.    I don’t like when C is upset or hurt and I always feel that I deserve a harsher punishment than she gives.   Of course at the moment of impact I may change my mind.

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The Loopy Johnny Experience


After a week with no work and lots of play it was punishment time.   It also coincided with HOH being treated as Goddess for a day.  Actually that lasted more than the day.

As part of the Goddess treats she allowed me to choose the implement and method of its use.   Loopy Johnny used vigourously was my choice.   Not because I particularly  like it, but because I thought HOH would like its effect.

When the time came , HOH commanded on my hands and feet on the floor and stood astride me and as instructed proceeded to whip down my arse cheeks vigourously.   A minute was HOH’s prescribed dose and it took nowhere near that to get my attention.

The Loopy Johnny is an evil invention and whilst it looks pretty harmless, its basically just a short whip.  Normally HOH takes her time with it to get a harder, more accurate stroke.   This means I get off with anything between 6 and 12 strokes, individually each stroke is not too hard to take but they tend to cause more welts than most of the other implements we have.   I’ve never experienced a lot more strokes, but I do know it would start becoming pretty nasty.

With HOH whipping away vigourously, each stroke was relatively lighter but there were a LOT more.  And the cumulative effect was for me to start wriggling to try and avoid them.  It seemed that most were landing on the right hand bum cheek and I was trying to twist so that some would land on my other cheek.   I don’t know if C was deliberately trying to punish only one side.  She has done in the past, but has always evened things up by punishing the other for a bit too.

Overall, not the worst punishment I’ve ever received, but C certainly enjoyed seeing me wriggling knowing that her efforts were having the desired effect.

That was a week ago and this week hasn’t really been much better than last so I might need to bare my ass for HOH again very soon.

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