FLR / DD Relaunched


We’ve relaunched our FLR / FLM / DD lifestyle.   We’ve been getting lax and falling into bad habits – OK possibly because last year I was not well and incapable of doing a lot of things as well as really not wanting any sex or kink.

So Monday I suggested to Lady C that we should look at a relaunch I was quite surprised when She replied with a blunt “Yes, we’ll discuss that tonight”.      We visited the pub and after dinner She brought the subject up.

“So you want to relaunch the FLR?  Well its going to be me making all the decisions, telling you what to do, making you eat healthier, drink less, going where I want to go, doing chores around the house, and giving me sex whenever I want?   Is that what you want – no choice, no argument?”.  “You do realise that you’ll get your ass strapped a lot more, and unless you want your cock permanently caged, you’ll need to do as I say, quickly and with good grace”.   We’ll still make the big decisions together, of course, but She will have the final say.

This is bit different, she means business this time.  “So, starting now you WILL do as I wish and keep me happy”.   With that she took me up to the bedroom and sealed the deal with the nasty wooden paddle.  “I like this paddle”, she says, “You made it specially for me to punish you with and I can see that you don’t like it”.  With the paddle, She started spanking whilst lecturing me on her rules and our FLR/FLM arrangement.   “You, will do as I say , otherwise this is what will happen.   Understood?

So another chapter begins, with a stricter regime than last.  So far She is living up to Her promises and we’re starting to get a bit more organised and putting the house and our lifes in order, with the paddle and straps keeping me focused.

Time will tell how things will turn out, but for now I’m enjoying it.

Do I Need a Reason?


Today is going to be a day full of spankings.   On our whiteboard there is the following:

  • Pick 6 Implements
  • Find a reason to use them
  • Use them
  • Repeat

For reasons the following categories are suggested:

  • Discipline
  • Lady C’s fun
  • A’s fun
  • Proxy
  • Maintenance
  • Thought association
  • Encouragement
  • No reason
  • Whim
  • Regular
  • Rule breaches
  • Dominance

Most of these are straightforward, thought association is hearing, seeing, thinking, reading of something that can be taken out of context and put into a spanking one.  Example that Lady C actually said this morning: “that cupboard is a pain in the bum”.  Other examples are seeing the colour red, use of the words heat, warmth, sting, and pulling on a (bra) strap.

Proxy is simple – if there is a reason that Lady C needs spanked then she transfers that to her nominated proxy – i.e. me.

Regular?  Well she may decide that she wants to administer a spanking every 10 minutes during 1900-2000 when we will be making dinner.

Dominance – well that re-asserts Lady C as the Head of the Household in our FLR

Anybody got any other reasons?

A

Welcome Home


Been working away again.  When it was getting time to book my return travel Mistress told me that I was going to get a spanking as soon as I get home.

For the next couple of days that’s all she spoke about.  “You’re getting a spanking whether you like it or not”.    “You’ll be naked over my knee”,  “You know you want it”, “Because I can, and I will”.

So when I did get, she allowed me to shower and then it was straight over her knee for a hand spanking.   She was naked except for a pair of “fuck me” shoes and whilst spanking lectured me that this was remind me that She is the boss of our relationship.

The spanking wasn’t too long, just hard enough to bring a glow to my cheeks and to re-establish Lady C as head of the house.

A

I Want A Spanking


Sometimes I crave spankings.  Nice spankings, and not the horrible punishments that the Bitch Strap is used for.   I mentioned before that Lady C does not do warm-ups and goes straight to burning, stinging throbbing pain.  Therefore I think I want one the nice spanking starting with over the knee hand spanking to gently warm the cheeks before going the next level with the paddle.  Next, a more kinkier I want her to straddle me and spank down each check until there’s a slight wriggling going on and then maybe spank a bit harder, faster, or even both.   Then to the finale with one of the lesser used straps to make the pink glow turn to red and leave me ready to consummate the spanking with a nicely reddened bum.

How do I get such a spanking?  Easy.   I just need to ask Lady C to do it for me.  She’s always happy to oblige.   However, it doesn’t always turn out how I wanted it.  She just takes advantage of the situation and does her own thing, usually heavy handed with her Mistress Strap or a nasty Tawse.   Its so much easier for her if I willingly present my bum to her than her demanding that I get into position.

I should be careful want I wish for, however secretly I do like when she takes control of a situation and enforces the FLR. But I wouldn’t have it any other way.

Totally FLR Day 3


Our totally FLR weekend continues a bit slower after a hard night of partying.  Lady C managed a few dominant things last night when we were out with friends.

Actually just the organisation of it all was exactly the kind of FLR stuff I was after.  It started with “We’re going out tonight for dinner with friends then we’re going to this pub” or similiar wording.  She had decided on our behalf that was what we were doing and what restaurant we were going to eat at.   Just as a FLR should be.  Friday night was similiar – you’re taking me to the pub and we’re coming home after the football has finished.

Now, just wondering what totally submissive things I can perform for her entertainment before the weekend is over.

Have fun.

A

Totally FLR


We have a FLR (female led relationship). That means Lady C makes all the decisions or should. 

This weekend, as we’re both together alone and not working I suggested that we (she) make it a totally FLR one.  A educational weekend  where she teaches me how to be obedient, respectful, not to be cheeky, restraint, confinement, discipline and reward.

As this is a prearranged play and not our normal lifestyle I feel I can make comment. So far it’s been all about her, only thing is she keeps threatening nasty implements…. And not using them.

We have drawers full of implements and devices, some very expensive, some antique and collectors items, ranging from titillating to encouragement to deterrent to nasty punishment. Why are they not used more?

A

Uxorious


Lady C was doing a puzzle last week.  The clue was “being overly devoted to your wife”, and starting with the letter “U”.

Well, what is it demanded C?   I shall be teaching you it later.

Turns out the word is Uxorious and when you look up the definition it also means overly submissive towards your wife – exactly what I am them 😉

A

FLR Day


In celebration of our new FLR lifestyle, we’re having a FLR day.

We’ll go over how well we’ve done in the last few days and what parts we need to work on.  I have nice request for Lady C to wear her thigh length boots, basque/corset and wave a riding crop menacingly.   My penis is really securely locked in our new chastity device – the Watchful Mistress.

We’ll have some fun, some champagne and see if we can keep a smile on Mistress’s face all day 😉

A

Holiday Fun


It’s that time of year again to enjoy our annual holiday together.  I do like not having to do the same old dull schedule and instead get to do new, fun and exciting things in strange, unexplored locations.
I always feel that it gives us a new dimension to be a bit more risque. What better than the anonymity of a hotel room for a spanking knowing that someone might be listening at the door, or discussing the merits of male chastity at the bar or poolside?
I’m not quite ready in the vanilla world to go blatantly displaying my striped ass or naked in the sauna wearing only a Dicktator and a smile, but I do look forward to being able to crank it up a bit.

A