RESPECT


For the last week Lady C has been using the phrase “That’s disrespectful” . It’s been used for lots of things from walking in front of her, darling the wrong thing, in general most things. On Wednesday we spoke about it and what should happen should these words be spoken.

She really wishes sometimes she was brave enough to put me over her knee and spank me in public, but I can’t ever see that happening. In private it will happen, in company I shall make a note and it’ll get dealt with later.

So last night Lady C was at the theatre. I took advantage of this to watch an old cult movie – Blues Brothers 2000. We had just got to the point when Aretha Franklyn was about tell the guys of the band her thoughts and my phone rang. Yes, Lady C called just at the opening bars of Respect.

It’s now my custom ringtone for Her.

F.L.R. Paddling


Last night after returning from the pub and still caged Mistress decided it was time to try out Her F.L.R. Paddle.

Ouch that hurt and there’s still very visible signs on my ass this morning. The side effect of Lady C paddling my ass was to make Her very horny. So She gets pleasured, I get paddled – its not fair is it?

A

New Regime, New Position


One thing that’s came out since we rekindled our FLR/FLM is that Lady C is bit stricter and doing things Her way.   However that hasn’t stopped Her from seeing a good idea and adopting it. In particular She was reading a series of FLR short stories.   Most of these seemingly were total fantasy, but She did mention that a lot of the paddles had holes in them and that the men always appeared to be more afraid of them.

“Why do they have holes in them?”, she casually asked as we were going to bed.   “Well the holes allow the air to pass through and not build an air cushion below the blade allowing faster speed at impact”, was my response.

“I want to see what it’s like with holes”, She said. “Now bend over and grab your ankles.   This seemed to be a popular position in these stories”.   So, I bent over and did as She commanded as She started to paddle my ass.   Bent over grabbing ankles is a position that we have barely ever used, but She seemed to like it and even complemented me on the fact that I can actually get into that position.

Next morning as I was leaving for work, I said “You can have holes on two conditions: one – you choose a name for the paddle and two – you get a hole every time its used”.   Ok, possibly a bit brave of me to tell Lady C how I’m going to do things, but nonetheless She let it pass.

I suggested a few names for the paddle, but the one She chose was F.L.R. – For Loving Reminders. To be used to remind us both that every use is to be done for the betterment of our relationship, never in anger, always with love.

Yesterday I finished work early and was able to do a bit of modification to the paddle.  I drilled a hole, then thought I would drill some more.  We now have a paddle with 5 holes, one hole for each year of marriage.   When I showed Her the finished paddle She was very pleased with it and promised that She would be using it soon.  So far, its not been used, but I’m not hopeful.   Its not the best piece of wood and I’ve promised Her that I’ll make Her a new one made from a nice piece of wood such as beech, oak or maple.  One that’ll have a nicer shape, one made with all my skill and love and engraved with F.L.R.

So if anyone knows where I can get a nice piece of wood, please let me know

FLR / DD Relaunched


We’ve relaunched our FLR / FLM / DD lifestyle. We’ve been getting lax and falling into bad habits – OK possibly because last year I was not well and incapable of doing a lot of things as well as really not wanting any sex or kink.

So Monday I suggested to Lady C that we should look at a relaunch I was quite surprised when She replied with a blunt “Yes, we’ll discuss that tonight”. We visited the pub and after dinner She brought the subject up.

“So you want to relaunch the FLR? Well its going to be me making all the decisions, telling you what to do, making you eat healthier, drink less, going where I want to go, doing chores around the house, and giving me sex whenever I want? Is that what you want – no choice, no argument?”. “You do realise that you’ll get your ass strapped a lot more, and unless you want your cock permanently caged, you’ll need to do as I say, quickly and with good grace”. We’ll still make the big decisions together, of course, but She will have the final say.

This is bit different, she means business this time. “So, starting now you WILL do as I wish and keep me happy”. With that she took me up to the bedroom and sealed the deal with the nasty wooden paddle. “I like this paddle”, she says, “You made it specially for me to punish you with and I can see that you don’t like it”. With the paddle, She started spanking whilst lecturing me on her rules and our FLR/FLM arrangement. “You, will do as I say , otherwise this is what will happen. Understood?

So another chapter begins, with a stricter regime than last. So far She is living up to Her promises and we’re starting to get a bit more organised and putting the house and our lifes in order, with the paddle and straps keeping me focused.

Time will tell how things will turn out, but for now I’m enjoying it.

Welcome Home


Been working away again.  When it was getting time to book my return travel Mistress told me that I was going to get a spanking as soon as I get home.

For the next couple of days that’s all she spoke about.  “You’re getting a spanking whether you like it or not”.    “You’ll be naked over my knee”,  “You know you want it”, “Because I can, and I will”.

So when I did get, she allowed me to shower and then it was straight over her knee for a hand spanking.   She was naked except for a pair of “fuck me” shoes and whilst spanking lectured me that this was remind me that She is the boss of our relationship.

The spanking wasn’t too long, just hard enough to bring a glow to my cheeks and to re-establish Lady C as head of the house.

A

I Want A Spanking


Sometimes I crave spankings.  Nice spankings, and not the horrible punishments that the Bitch Strap is used for.   I mentioned before that Lady C does not do warm-ups and goes straight to burning, stinging throbbing pain.  Therefore I think I want one the nice spanking starting with over the knee hand spanking to gently warm the cheeks before going the next level with the paddle.  Next, a more kinkier I want her to straddle me and spank down each check until there’s a slight wriggling going on and then maybe spank a bit harder, faster, or even both.   Then to the finale with one of the lesser used straps to make the pink glow turn to red and leave me ready to consummate the spanking with a nicely reddened bum.

How do I get such a spanking?  Easy.   I just need to ask Lady C to do it for me.  She’s always happy to oblige.   However, it doesn’t always turn out how I wanted it.  She just takes advantage of the situation and does her own thing, usually heavy handed with her Mistress Strap or a nasty Tawse.   Its so much easier for her if I willingly present my bum to her than her demanding that I get into position.

I should be careful want I wish for, however secretly I do like when she takes control of a situation and enforces the FLR. But I wouldn’t have it any other way.

Weals and Welts


A recent conversation with Mistress revealed that she is uncomfortable with weals and welts.  When she sees the welts she thinks she has gone too far.   She likes the redness, the wriggling, just seeing my naked bum and knowing she has the power to make me go OUCH.

From my point of view the welt/weal is the trophy, a badge of honour that says that I have taken a trashing from Mistress.    Mistress needs to take them as a success – something that says she’s achieved the goal of punishing my ass as well as reliving the moment when I complain or sit down gingerly.

As usual I got the warning – “beware of what you ask for!”.    Technically I didn’t ask, just facilitated it.   So now she has to stop worrying about the state she leaves my ass in and more on concentrating on admiring her handiwork.

Its another start to a new regime.   A stricter, harsher Mistress that’s going to get things moving and ensure that things get done.   We’ve both been under par for a few months, me even longer with not enough energy to blog or to even think about sex and kink, and last weekend was the first time for a while that I felt inclined to do something.   Mistress of course took advantage and gave me a reminder with her riding crop, boudoir paddle and Mistress Strap of what to expect if I don’t conform to her rules and commands.   As always when we start out we get all sorts of obstructions in our way.  This time it was having family staying over for the week.   They’re all gone now and its time to get started with the planning again.

Happy Spankings

A

Fantasies


I have fantasies, lots of them.   In them the scenarious are quite varied and the main characters in them are women.  Some involve having one or more women spanking me, or watching me get a spanking or some or dominant role either singly or encouraging Lady C.  There’re other submissive ones involving women pointing and laughing, or just curious about seeing my penis safely locked away in a chastity cage.  The key thing here is that they are all women based fantasies.  No big surprise here as that is my normal sexual orientation.

In the past Lady C has revealed some of her fantasies, and guess what?   Yes, her’s involve men, however not quite in the way you may initially suspect.   In her fantasy she has another couple, and wants to see me wank and suck cock, even take the full load of semen in my mouth.   Its not a sub/dom type thing, I get exactly the same.  She’s intrigued to see if a man can do it better than a woman and if I would be able to tell the difference.   Of course like all fantasies there are a few blurred moments and how would she be able to watch the boys action when the girls would be at either?

I must admit the first time she told me about this I was mildly curious.  We men do get quick looks at each other’s penises in toilet and sports changing rooms, but not to the extent of getting up close and exploring another cock.  I’m way more familiar with the naked female body than another mans and I do like the feel of boobs pressing against my back or having her rub her crotch against my body I have never experienced a hard cock press against my back, face or any other part of my body.

We decided to explore these thoughts again recently and it didn’t take long before Lady C had the strap-on on and was trying to get Lusty Leo or Roger Ramrod, or whatever its called, balls deep in my mouth.   “Take it all”, she encourages.   Possibly one of the most dominant/submissive things we’ve done.  Me on my hands and knees with my cock caged, sucking until my jaws hurt on cock with my dominant wife looking down on me with a superior smile.

I asked her what happened at this point in her fantasy, did one of the women get a strap-on and take me in the ass.  “Nope”, she says, “remember the girls are busy playing with each other”.

“But that would be super subby, wouldn’t it, seeing me with a cock in my mouth and one in my ass being spit roasted?”, I asked, “Especially when caged”.   Remember being caged in the company of others is one of my things.#

Next thing my back was arched and my ass lubed up and Lady C was pressing the fallus against my bum hole and starting to thrust her hips.  This time I’ve got another dildo in my hands and sucking on it for all my worth.  Wow, how powerfull.  OK, this dildo is actually a model of my own cock with the “clone-a-willy” kit.   We played like this for a bit with Lady C telling me how much I like cock and I’m a complete slutty subby and this is the only hard cock I’m going to have as I’m still caged.

After a bit we changed positions so I was on my back on the side of the sofa with my legs lifted up out the way and Lady C was back between my legs nudging 5″ of latex cock up my ass again.   Difference with this position is that we are now face to face and can see each other’s expressions.   She has the view of hard cock in my ass, small caged cock and hard cock in my mouth.

We stopped after a bit and Lady C had obviously enjoyed herself thoroughly as she was very wet and demanding my tongue between her legs.   With that duty taken care of we chatted about it afterwards.  For chat, think more interrogation as my arms were restrained and the cock-shock fitted.   Wrong or unacceptable answers = zap.   First question was “How did you like that?”.   My answer was a bit long winded discussing the dominant / submissive elements of it and my body reaction was to dribble pre-cum despite being caged.   I got zapped as all she wanted to here was a yes or no answer.  “Guess that’s a yes then”.

“Will we ever be able to fufill this in real life?”    We’re both quite private with our sex lives and there’s no way we could do this locally.  The other couple in the fantasty are faceless there were no other significant features, although typing this up now I can think up my perfect woman with boobs, legs, cute ass, face and hair.   So, unless we end up on some faraway beach holiday and find a like minded couple in the hot tub this is going to remain a fantasy for us, athough I think Lady C’s strap-on will be a more regular thing in the future.    After it all I was so horny and desperate to have an orgasm that I negotiated a hard caning and further chastity to get my face splattered with my own cum.

Totally FLR Day 3


Our totally FLR weekend continues a bit slower after a hard night of partying.  Lady C managed a few dominant things last night when we were out with friends.

Actually just the organisation of it all was exactly the kind of FLR stuff I was after.  It started with “We’re going out tonight for dinner with friends then we’re going to this pub” or similiar wording.  She had decided on our behalf that was what we were doing and what restaurant we were going to eat at.   Just as a FLR should be.  Friday night was similiar – you’re taking me to the pub and we’re coming home after the football has finished.

Now, just wondering what totally submissive things I can perform for her entertainment before the weekend is over.

Have fun.

A

Totally FLR


We have a FLR (female led relationship). That means Lady C makes all the decisions or should. 

This weekend, as we’re both together alone and not working I suggested that we (she) make it a totally FLR one.  A educational weekend  where she teaches me how to be obedient, respectful, not to be cheeky, restraint, confinement, discipline and reward.

As this is a prearranged play and not our normal lifestyle I feel I can make comment. So far it’s been all about her, only thing is she keeps threatening nasty implements…. And not using them.

We have drawers full of implements and devices, some very expensive, some antique and collectors items, ranging from titillating to encouragement to deterrent to nasty punishment. Why are they not used more?

A