FLR / DD Relaunched


We’ve relaunched our FLR / FLM / DD lifestyle.   We’ve been getting lax and falling into bad habits – OK possibly because last year I was not well and incapable of doing a lot of things as well as really not wanting any sex or kink.

So Monday I suggested to Lady C that we should look at a relaunch I was quite surprised when She replied with a blunt “Yes, we’ll discuss that tonight”.      We visited the pub and after dinner She brought the subject up.

“So you want to relaunch the FLR?  Well its going to be me making all the decisions, telling you what to do, making you eat healthier, drink less, going where I want to go, doing chores around the house, and giving me sex whenever I want?   Is that what you want – no choice, no argument?”.  “You do realise that you’ll get your ass strapped a lot more, and unless you want your cock permanently caged, you’ll need to do as I say, quickly and with good grace”.   We’ll still make the big decisions together, of course, but She will have the final say.

This is bit different, she means business this time.  “So, starting now you WILL do as I wish and keep me happy”.   With that she took me up to the bedroom and sealed the deal with the nasty wooden paddle.  “I like this paddle”, she says, “You made it specially for me to punish you with and I can see that you don’t like it”.  With the paddle, She started spanking whilst lecturing me on her rules and our FLR/FLM arrangement.   “You, will do as I say , otherwise this is what will happen.   Understood?

So another chapter begins, with a stricter regime than last.  So far She is living up to Her promises and we’re starting to get a bit more organised and putting the house and our lifes in order, with the paddle and straps keeping me focused.

Time will tell how things will turn out, but for now I’m enjoying it.

Welcome Home


Been working away again.  When it was getting time to book my return travel Mistress told me that I was going to get a spanking as soon as I get home.

For the next couple of days that’s all she spoke about.  “You’re getting a spanking whether you like it or not”.    “You’ll be naked over my knee”,  “You know you want it”, “Because I can, and I will”.

So when I did get, she allowed me to shower and then it was straight over her knee for a hand spanking.   She was naked except for a pair of “fuck me” shoes and whilst spanking lectured me that this was remind me that She is the boss of our relationship.

The spanking wasn’t too long, just hard enough to bring a glow to my cheeks and to re-establish Lady C as head of the house.

A

I Want A Spanking


Sometimes I crave spankings.  Nice spankings, and not the horrible punishments that the Bitch Strap is used for.   I mentioned before that Lady C does not do warm-ups and goes straight to burning, stinging throbbing pain.  Therefore I think I want one the nice spanking starting with over the knee hand spanking to gently warm the cheeks before going the next level with the paddle.  Next, a more kinkier I want her to straddle me and spank down each check until there’s a slight wriggling going on and then maybe spank a bit harder, faster, or even both.   Then to the finale with one of the lesser used straps to make the pink glow turn to red and leave me ready to consummate the spanking with a nicely reddened bum.

How do I get such a spanking?  Easy.   I just need to ask Lady C to do it for me.  She’s always happy to oblige.   However, it doesn’t always turn out how I wanted it.  She just takes advantage of the situation and does her own thing, usually heavy handed with her Mistress Strap or a nasty Tawse.   Its so much easier for her if I willingly present my bum to her than her demanding that I get into position.

I should be careful want I wish for, however secretly I do like when she takes control of a situation and enforces the FLR. But I wouldn’t have it any other way.

Weals and Welts


A recent conversation with Mistress revealed that she is uncomfortable with weals and welts.  When she sees the welts she thinks she has gone too far.   She likes the redness, the wriggling, just seeing my naked bum and knowing she has the power to make me go OUCH.

From my point of view the welt/weal is the trophy, a badge of honour that says that I have taken a trashing from Mistress.    Mistress needs to take them as a success – something that says she’s achieved the goal of punishing my ass as well as reliving the moment when I complain or sit down gingerly.

As usual I got the warning – “beware of what you ask for!”.    Technically I didn’t ask, just facilitated it.   So now she has to stop worrying about the state she leaves my ass in and more on concentrating on admiring her handiwork.

Its another start to a new regime.   A stricter, harsher Mistress that’s going to get things moving and ensure that things get done.   We’ve both been under par for a few months, me even longer with not enough energy to blog or to even think about sex and kink, and last weekend was the first time for a while that I felt inclined to do something.   Mistress of course took advantage and gave me a reminder with her riding crop, boudoir paddle and Mistress Strap of what to expect if I don’t conform to her rules and commands.   As always when we start out we get all sorts of obstructions in our way.  This time it was having family staying over for the week.   They’re all gone now and its time to get started with the planning again.

Happy Spankings

A

Fantasies


I have fantasies, lots of them.   In them the scenarious are quite varied and the main characters in them are women.  Some involve having one or more women spanking me, or watching me get a spanking or some or dominant role either singly or encouraging Lady C.  There’re other submissive ones involving women pointing and laughing, or just curious about seeing my penis safely locked away in a chastity cage.  The key thing here is that they are all women based fantasies.  No big surprise here as that is my normal sexual orientation.

In the past Lady C has revealed some of her fantasies, and guess what?   Yes, her’s involve men, however not quite in the way you may initially suspect.   In her fantasy she has another couple, and wants to see me wank and suck cock, even take the full load of semen in my mouth.   Its not a sub/dom type thing, I get exactly the same.  She’s intrigued to see if a man can do it better than a woman and if I would be able to tell the difference.   Of course like all fantasies there are a few blurred moments and how would she be able to watch the boys action when the girls would be at either?

I must admit the first time she told me about this I was mildly curious.  We men do get quick looks at each other’s penises in toilet and sports changing rooms, but not to the extent of getting up close and exploring another cock.  I’m way more familiar with the naked female body than another mans and I do like the feel of boobs pressing against my back or having her rub her crotch against my body I have never experienced a hard cock press against my back, face or any other part of my body.

We decided to explore these thoughts again recently and it didn’t take long before Lady C had the strap-on on and was trying to get Lusty Leo or Roger Ramrod, or whatever its called, balls deep in my mouth.   “Take it all”, she encourages.   Possibly one of the most dominant/submissive things we’ve done.  Me on my hands and knees with my cock caged, sucking until my jaws hurt on cock with my dominant wife looking down on me with a superior smile.

I asked her what happened at this point in her fantasy, did one of the women get a strap-on and take me in the ass.  “Nope”, she says, “remember the girls are busy playing with each other”.

“But that would be super subby, wouldn’t it, seeing me with a cock in my mouth and one in my ass being spit roasted?”, I asked, “Especially when caged”.   Remember being caged in the company of others is one of my things.#

Next thing my back was arched and my ass lubed up and Lady C was pressing the fallus against my bum hole and starting to thrust her hips.  This time I’ve got another dildo in my hands and sucking on it for all my worth.  Wow, how powerfull.  OK, this dildo is actually a model of my own cock with the “clone-a-willy” kit.   We played like this for a bit with Lady C telling me how much I like cock and I’m a complete slutty subby and this is the only hard cock I’m going to have as I’m still caged.

After a bit we changed positions so I was on my back on the side of the sofa with my legs lifted up out the way and Lady C was back between my legs nudging 5″ of latex cock up my ass again.   Difference with this position is that we are now face to face and can see each other’s expressions.   She has the view of hard cock in my ass, small caged cock and hard cock in my mouth.

We stopped after a bit and Lady C had obviously enjoyed herself thoroughly as she was very wet and demanding my tongue between her legs.   With that duty taken care of we chatted about it afterwards.  For chat, think more interrogation as my arms were restrained and the cock-shock fitted.   Wrong or unacceptable answers = zap.   First question was “How did you like that?”.   My answer was a bit long winded discussing the dominant / submissive elements of it and my body reaction was to dribble pre-cum despite being caged.   I got zapped as all she wanted to here was a yes or no answer.  “Guess that’s a yes then”.

“Will we ever be able to fufill this in real life?”    We’re both quite private with our sex lives and there’s no way we could do this locally.  The other couple in the fantasty are faceless there were no other significant features, although typing this up now I can think up my perfect woman with boobs, legs, cute ass, face and hair.   So, unless we end up on some faraway beach holiday and find a like minded couple in the hot tub this is going to remain a fantasy for us, athough I think Lady C’s strap-on will be a more regular thing in the future.    After it all I was so horny and desperate to have an orgasm that I negotiated a hard caning and further chastity to get my face splattered with my own cum.

Totally FLR Day 3


Our totally FLR weekend continues a bit slower after a hard night of partying.  Lady C managed a few dominant things last night when we were out with friends.

Actually just the organisation of it all was exactly the kind of FLR stuff I was after.  It started with “We’re going out tonight for dinner with friends then we’re going to this pub” or similiar wording.  She had decided on our behalf that was what we were doing and what restaurant we were going to eat at.   Just as a FLR should be.  Friday night was similiar – you’re taking me to the pub and we’re coming home after the football has finished.

Now, just wondering what totally submissive things I can perform for her entertainment before the weekend is over.

Have fun.

A

Totally FLR


We have a FLR (female led relationship). That means Lady C makes all the decisions or should. 

This weekend, as we’re both together alone and not working I suggested that we (she) make it a totally FLR one.  A educational weekend  where she teaches me how to be obedient, respectful, not to be cheeky, restraint, confinement, discipline and reward.

As this is a prearranged play and not our normal lifestyle I feel I can make comment. So far it’s been all about her, only thing is she keeps threatening nasty implements…. And not using them.

We have drawers full of implements and devices, some very expensive, some antique and collectors items, ranging from titillating to encouragement to deterrent to nasty punishment. Why are they not used more?

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The Cruel Mistress


We have a new device.  The Master Series Cock Shock is an electro-sex device is designed to fit around the base of the cock, whilst the remote control goes in the hand of the dominant.

The remote has four buttons and two switches.   The switches are on/off and high/low volume.   The most harmless button is for an inbuilt LED in the remote, it seems that every toy has to have a LED in them these days and I can’t see much use for it except to perhaps try and get the person wearing the shocker’s attention.

The next button just makes causes a buzzer to sound, volume dependent on the volume switch.   Button three causes a vibration as long as its held down – nice.

The fourth button is cruel and when pressed this releases a really nasty shock leaving the wearer not wanting more.

Cockshock remote and shocker

So far Mistress hasn’t really used it for anything more than a quick press.  Let me state categorically that this is not one of these lame TENS devices, this is a real shock.

When you’re not expecting it, even the vibrate function causes you to jump, but still nothing close to the shock when it is delivered.

One thing I’ve noticed when I’ve got this on is the instant transformation of my behaviour, no back chatting, proper replies, making sure that Mistress is addressed properly and doing things promptly as soon as the command is given.

On the down side the shocker times out after 3 minutes to save the batteries, however motion will wake it up again ready for action.  There’s two LEDs on the shocker – a red and a green – which show when its awake.  Not much use when there’s clothes on top of it.

We’ve done some research and found that a 45 degree turn in a particular direction is enough and Mistress has also discovered that punching, or grabbing that particular area does the same.   Continuing to send vibrations or shocks also keeps it alive.  We’ve not tried with the buzzer or the torch, and it may turn out that this works too.

The instructions aren’t really helpful – OK they tell you how to put the battery and how to pair the remote with the shocker and then “fit it to your slave…”   I’ve discovered the hard way that with the shocker sitting underneath the shocks are not as bad as when its on top.  Probably something to do with the extra layers of skin, muscle and whatever else is down there.   When the shocker was mounted upwards the whole shock sensation was so much stronger and it felt like it travelled all the way to the tip.   I reckon that this would be able to destroy any erection used in this way.    So far its always been a “hands off”, but I’m sure Mistress would be able to pick up the remote and the shocker and just hold it against me and get the same effect, just a lot quicker.

For longer term or permenent use this is far from ideal.  The velcro is uncomfortable and is easily removed by the wearer.  A better solution would be a lockable ring and obviously not have the auto-switch off function.  Even better if the motion of the wearer could be harnessed to charge the batteries.   I am aware of the “Dream Lover 2000” but its very expension in comparison.

We’ve named this the “Cruel Mistress” as its active and cruel as opposed to the Watchful Mistress chastity device which is completely passive.   Its ideal for any Mistress who wishes some obedience training and I cannot imagine any man wearning one of these would ever press that button more than once.

The Cruel Mistress is now one of Lady C’s favourites and now threatens me with a shocking experience or zapping when I’m misbehaving.

Every Now and Again


Every now and again I get an urge.  I’m sure others get them too.  Today’s urge, however, is for Lady C to have fun with my balls.

Squeeze, pull, slap, punch, knee or kick.  Any would do.

Uxorious


Lady C was doing a puzzle last week.  The clue was “being overly devoted to your wife”, and starting with the letter “U”.

Well, what is it demanded C?   I shall be teaching you it later.

Turns out the word is Uxorious and when you look up the definition it also means overly submissive towards your wife – exactly what I am them 😉

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