Totally FLR Day 3


Our totally FLR weekend continues a bit slower after a hard night of partying.  Lady C managed a few dominant things last night when we were out with friends.

Actually just the organisation of it all was exactly the kind of FLR stuff I was after.  It started with “We’re going out tonight for dinner with friends then we’re going to this pub” or similiar wording.  She had decided on our behalf that was what we were doing and what restaurant we were going to eat at.   Just as a FLR should be.  Friday night was similiar – you’re taking me to the pub and we’re coming home after the football has finished.

Now, just wondering what totally submissive things I can perform for her entertainment before the weekend is over.

Have fun.

A

Totally FLR


We have a FLR (female led relationship). That means Lady C makes all the decisions or should. 

This weekend, as we’re both together alone and not working I suggested that we (she) make it a totally FLR one.  A educational weekend  where she teaches me how to be obedient, respectful, not to be cheeky, restraint, confinement, discipline and reward.

As this is a prearranged play and not our normal lifestyle I feel I can make comment. So far it’s been all about her, only thing is she keeps threatening nasty implements…. And not using them.

We have drawers full of implements and devices, some very expensive, some antique and collectors items, ranging from titillating to encouragement to deterrent to nasty punishment. Why are they not used more?

A

The Cruel Mistress


We have a new device.  The Master Series Cock Shock is an electro-sex device is designed to fit around the base of the cock, whilst the remote control goes in the hand of the dominant.

The remote has four buttons and two switches.   The switches are on/off and high/low volume.   The most harmless button is for an inbuilt LED in the remote, it seems that every toy has to have a LED in them these days and I can’t see much use for it except to perhaps try and get the person wearing the shocker’s attention.

The next button just makes causes a buzzer to sound, volume dependent on the volume switch.   Button three causes a vibration as long as its held down – nice.

The fourth button is cruel and when pressed this releases a really nasty shock leaving the wearer not wanting more.

Cockshock remote and shocker

So far Mistress hasn’t really used it for anything more than a quick press.  Let me state categorically that this is not one of these lame TENS devices, this is a real shock.

When you’re not expecting it, even the vibrate function causes you to jump, but still nothing close to the shock when it is delivered.

One thing I’ve noticed when I’ve got this on is the instant transformation of my behaviour, no back chatting, proper replies, making sure that Mistress is addressed properly and doing things promptly as soon as the command is given.

On the down side the shocker times out after 3 minutes to save the batteries, however motion will wake it up again ready for action.  There’s two LEDs on the shocker – a red and a green – which show when its awake.  Not much use when there’s clothes on top of it.

We’ve done some research and found that a 45 degree turn in a particular direction is enough and Mistress has also discovered that punching, or grabbing that particular area does the same.   Continuing to send vibrations or shocks also keeps it alive.  We’ve not tried with the buzzer or the torch, and it may turn out that this works too.

The instructions aren’t really helpful – OK they tell you how to put the battery and how to pair the remote with the shocker and then “fit it to your slave…”   I’ve discovered the hard way that with the shocker sitting underneath the shocks are not as bad as when its on top.  Probably something to do with the extra layers of skin, muscle and whatever else is down there.   When the shocker was mounted upwards the whole shock sensation was so much stronger and it felt like it travelled all the way to the tip.   I reckon that this would be able to destroy any erection used in this way.    So far its always been a “hands off”, but I’m sure Mistress would be able to pick up the remote and the shocker and just hold it against me and get the same effect, just a lot quicker.

For longer term or permenent use this is far from ideal.  The velcro is uncomfortable and is easily removed by the wearer.  A better solution would be a lockable ring and obviously not have the auto-switch off function.  Even better if the motion of the wearer could be harnessed to charge the batteries.   I am aware of the “Dream Lover 2000” but its very expension in comparison.

We’ve named this the “Cruel Mistress” as its active and cruel as opposed to the Watchful Mistress chastity device which is completely passive.   Its ideal for any Mistress who wishes some obedience training and I cannot imagine any man wearning one of these would ever press that button more than once.

The Cruel Mistress is now one of Lady C’s favourites and now threatens me with a shocking experience or zapping when I’m misbehaving.

Every Now and Again


Every now and again I get an urge.  I’m sure others get them too.  Today’s urge, however, is for Lady C to have fun with my balls.

Squeeze, pull, slap, punch, knee or kick.  Any would do.

Uxorious


Lady C was doing a puzzle last week.  The clue was “being overly devoted to your wife”, and starting with the letter “U”.

Well, what is it demanded C?   I shall be teaching you it later.

Turns out the word is Uxorious and when you look up the definition it also means overly submissive towards your wife – exactly what I am them 😉

A

FLR Day


In celebration of our new FLR lifestyle, we’re having a FLR day.

We’ll go over how well we’ve done in the last few days and what parts we need to work on.  I have nice request for Lady C to wear her thigh length boots, basque/corset and wave a riding crop menacingly.   My penis is really securely locked in our new chastity device – the Watchful Mistress.

We’ll have some fun, some champagne and see if we can keep a smile on Mistress’s face all day 😉

A

His and Hers


I’ve made a few of these drip mats, these ones are currently on our dining room table.  And yes, that’s exactly what occurs.

His and Hers

The Disciplinarian


Disciplinarian : a person who is very strict about punishing bad behavior : a person who uses discipline as a way of making sure that rules or orders are obeyed.

I want Lady C to be my own personal Disciplinarian.  I need this, I want this.   I want her to help me achieve my goals through a set of goals and rules – my rules, my goals.   When I struggle to meet my goals or even to get started on them that when Lady C has to be the Disciplinarian.

Of course, just having my rules would be selfish.  Lady C needs rules too and I’m quite happy to have her enforce them too.  That’s the basis of consensual Domestic Discipline.

I’ve not decided as this point what my goal and rules are going to be, but as usual they need to be achievable and be measurable.  I see the rules as being very changeable and dynamic.  There’s lots of examples – I need to make a plan today, I don’t want to drink any more than 3 pints of beer on a particular night or I want the kitchen kept to a level of tidyness.

I’m also going to suggest some punishments and encouragements, because after all their my rules.  However, if Lady C wants to use her own or enhance mine, then I have no problem with that.

This is nothing new to us, just a refresh as to our commitment to DD and each other.

Time to go and figure out what I want to achieve with my life this week…

A

Super Strict, Swift and Silent


That’s our latest venture in Domestic Discipline, otherwise known as SSS DD.    Its that time of year when we have almost permanent house guests and even getting the house to ourselves for 5 minutes for maintenance is impossible.  Therefore we have thought up the Super Strict, Swift and Silent.

The straps and paddles make a lot of noise and it would be heard by inquisitive souls, therefore they are out.  Loopy Johnny is relatively quiet and good for a quick couple of lashes.   The small OTK cane is also quite quiet as is the crop.  We haven’t used either of there for a while.    The tawse on outstretched hands is another although it makes a slight noise – a noise that could be disguised by the TV or radio.  The other major benefit is that it requires no undressing making it very swift to administer.

Swift was taken to mean, that any infraction was to be dealt with almost immediately.  Now if in company that’s not always easy to do, however although we have guests we find ourselves in the back of the house in the dining room or kitchen alone quite a bit.  For these occasions, Lady C can do some quick CBT, or its only ten steps out the french windows to the shed where it is possible to make slightly more noise.   And who’s going to notice spanking noises coming from a shed?   We’ve placed a strap out there just ready for use – I thought it was almost in clear view, but Lady C took the best part of 15 minutes to find it.   The challenge was if she could find it, she could use it.  Still waiting for that to happen.

So that’s the swift and the silent.  The strict was a desire for Lady C to take note of absolutely everything I say or do and be able to find some fault with it.   Lady C is still not as strict as I would like sometimes, there’s always that thing where she wants to be nice to me after a bad day at work.  We’ll need to work on that one.

So today we find ourselves exploring the quiet and private places in our house with a list of outstanding punishments that need to be addressed.   What better way to spend a rainy day?

A

I Got Away With It


Self Maintenance is complete.  HOH Strap was used by me on my bare ass for the purpose of maintenance.

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