The Cruel Mistress


We have a new device.  The Master Series Cock Shock is an electro-sex device is designed to fit around the base of the cock, whilst the remote control goes in the hand of the dominant.

The remote has four buttons and two switches.   The switches are on/off and high/low volume.   The most harmless button is for an inbuilt LED in the remote, it seems that every toy has to have a LED in them these days and I can’t see much use for it except to perhaps try and get the person wearing the shocker’s attention.

The next button just makes causes a buzzer to sound, volume dependent on the volume switch.   Button three causes a vibration as long as its held down – nice.

The fourth button is cruel and when pressed this releases a really nasty shock leaving the wearer not wanting more.

Cockshock remote and shocker

So far Mistress hasn’t really used it for anything more than a quick press.  Let me state categorically that this is not one of these lame TENS devices, this is a real shock.

When you’re not expecting it, even the vibrate function causes you to jump, but still nothing close to the shock when it is delivered.

One thing I’ve noticed when I’ve got this on is the instant transformation of my behaviour, no back chatting, proper replies, making sure that Mistress is addressed properly and doing things promptly as soon as the command is given.

On the down side the shocker times out after 3 minutes to save the batteries, however motion will wake it up again ready for action.  There’s two LEDs on the shocker – a red and a green – which show when its awake.  Not much use when there’s clothes on top of it.

We’ve done some research and found that a 45 degree turn in a particular direction is enough and Mistress has also discovered that punching, or grabbing that particular area does the same.   Continuing to send vibrations or shocks also keeps it alive.  We’ve not tried with the buzzer or the torch, and it may turn out that this works too.

The instructions aren’t really helpful – OK they tell you how to put the battery and how to pair the remote with the shocker and then “fit it to your slave…”   I’ve discovered the hard way that with the shocker sitting underneath the shocks are not as bad as when its on top.  Probably something to do with the extra layers of skin, muscle and whatever else is down there.   When the shocker was mounted upwards the whole shock sensation was so much stronger and it felt like it travelled all the way to the tip.   I reckon that this would be able to destroy any erection used in this way.    So far its always been a “hands off”, but I’m sure Mistress would be able to pick up the remote and the shocker and just hold it against me and get the same effect, just a lot quicker.

For longer term or permenent use this is far from ideal.  The velcro is uncomfortable and is easily removed by the wearer.  A better solution would be a lockable ring and obviously not have the auto-switch off function.  Even better if the motion of the wearer could be harnessed to charge the batteries.   I am aware of the “Dream Lover 2000” but its very expension in comparison.

We’ve named this the “Cruel Mistress” as its active and cruel as opposed to the Watchful Mistress chastity device which is completely passive.   Its ideal for any Mistress who wishes some obedience training and I cannot imagine any man wearning one of these would ever press that button more than once.

The Cruel Mistress is now one of Lady C’s favourites and now threatens me with a shocking experience or zapping when I’m misbehaving.

His and Hers


I’ve made a few of these drip mats, these ones are currently on our dining room table.  And yes, that’s exactly what occurs.

His and Hers

The Disciplinarian


Disciplinarian : a person who is very strict about punishing bad behavior : a person who uses discipline as a way of making sure that rules or orders are obeyed.

I want Lady C to be my own personal Disciplinarian.  I need this, I want this.   I want her to help me achieve my goals through a set of goals and rules – my rules, my goals.   When I struggle to meet my goals or even to get started on them that when Lady C has to be the Disciplinarian.

Of course, just having my rules would be selfish.  Lady C needs rules too and I’m quite happy to have her enforce them too.  That’s the basis of consensual Domestic Discipline.

I’ve not decided as this point what my goal and rules are going to be, but as usual they need to be achievable and be measurable.  I see the rules as being very changeable and dynamic.  There’s lots of examples – I need to make a plan today, I don’t want to drink any more than 3 pints of beer on a particular night or I want the kitchen kept to a level of tidyness.

I’m also going to suggest some punishments and encouragements, because after all their my rules.  However, if Lady C wants to use her own or enhance mine, then I have no problem with that.

This is nothing new to us, just a refresh as to our commitment to DD and each other.

Time to go and figure out what I want to achieve with my life this week…

A

HOH Hidden Straps


In this post I mentioned that it would be interesting if there was a strap or implement in every room.  Well this weekend HOH has placed a spanking implement in every room in the house.  These will be used instantly for absolutely anything that displeases HOH.

As soon as I got home from work last night, HOH dragged me to the family bathroom to point out that I hadn’t quite reached her standards with regard to towels.  Almost immediately afterwards I discovered this is the hiding place of the small red heart shaped paddle.

There is a two tailed tawse hanging in the kitchen along with the rest of the cooking utensils – not been used yet.  The humbler is in the lounge and was in action for half an hour last night as Lady C took exception to some comments that I made.  Seemingly there’s other implements hidden in the room judging as HOH threatened to put one of them across my ass whilst humbled.

The only other impement that’s been located is HOH’s strap.  This was in the bedroom and was used when Lady C noted that I grudged taking her a coffee in bed this morning.  Update – the Glasgow Strap has now been put to use as HOH spotted me writing this post and determined that it mentioned her and I didn’t ask specific permission to publish it.

I wonder if any of these implements would have been used if they were still stuck in their toybox?  Probably not.

So why are we doing this?   I think it means that HOH feels much more like a HOH and keeps on top of the discipline elements.  And when she does that then it means that I get that constant reminder who’s in charge.  Apart from that its always fun when Lady C goes all dominant 🙂

A

Spot The Strap


A couple of months ago I placed one of C’s straps out in our shed just in case there was a spanking emergency. C couldn’t spot it, can you?  I think it needs to be moved before the damp weather makes it heavier and nastier.

I actually like the idea of having various straps around the house so that C can sort out any discipline in an instant.  A nowhere to hide from DD type arrangement. Perhaps we’ll try that for a week.

We will, of course, need to remember to return them all to the central strap repository when we expect friends or family around.

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Super Strict, Swift and Silent


That’s our latest venture in Domestic Discipline, otherwise known as SSS DD.    Its that time of year when we have almost permanent house guests and even getting the house to ourselves for 5 minutes for maintenance is impossible.  Therefore we have thought up the Super Strict, Swift and Silent.

The straps and paddles make a lot of noise and it would be heard by inquisitive souls, therefore they are out.  Loopy Johnny is relatively quiet and good for a quick couple of lashes.   The small OTK cane is also quite quiet as is the crop.  We haven’t used either of there for a while.    The tawse on outstretched hands is another although it makes a slight noise – a noise that could be disguised by the TV or radio.  The other major benefit is that it requires no undressing making it very swift to administer.

Swift was taken to mean, that any infraction was to be dealt with almost immediately.  Now if in company that’s not always easy to do, however although we have guests we find ourselves in the back of the house in the dining room or kitchen alone quite a bit.  For these occasions, Lady C can do some quick CBT, or its only ten steps out the french windows to the shed where it is possible to make slightly more noise.   And who’s going to notice spanking noises coming from a shed?   We’ve placed a strap out there just ready for use – I thought it was almost in clear view, but Lady C took the best part of 15 minutes to find it.   The challenge was if she could find it, she could use it.  Still waiting for that to happen.

So that’s the swift and the silent.  The strict was a desire for Lady C to take note of absolutely everything I say or do and be able to find some fault with it.   Lady C is still not as strict as I would like sometimes, there’s always that thing where she wants to be nice to me after a bad day at work.  We’ll need to work on that one.

So today we find ourselves exploring the quiet and private places in our house with a list of outstanding punishments that need to be addressed.   What better way to spend a rainy day?

A

Get Over It


The last couple of weekends we’ve been having some play – C plays the extra strict picky dominant one and I do the other bit.   When I mean picky, I mean really picky.  For example are the knives and forks put on the table the way that C likes them; are the salt and pepper in a straight line; was the wine poured neatly.

Last weekend, I had to address C as My Lady, this weekend she decided that Mistress was to be her preferred form of address.   I get my full first name.  In company C is known as the quite vanilla My Darling (HOH).   There are, of course, lots of spankings.  Some just because C wants to, others for not quite meeting C’s standards.

Yesterday, I managed to accumulate a spanking in the time it took to pickup C from her work and return home – namely not shaving for her.  Once back in the house she inspected the bathroom with I had cleaned – not good enough she says.  By the time we got to the bus stop on the way to the pub I managed to get another for telling C (or Mistress) to “get over it”.   She really doesn’t like me using that phrase and visibily bristles.

Once home after a quick couple of drinks I start getting the spankings.   The first one using her new strap on my hands and knees on the floor with Mistress straddling me as she straps down my cheeks – ouch.   Just before dinner is served she invites me to lie over the table whilst she straps me with the Glasgow strap – not the best performance as there’s not enough room so I think I got off lightly.   Last one was when we retired to bed lying flat on my tummy as she strapped with the new strap again, again a bit easier on my ass when its not stretched.

She’s already promised me another spanking tonight after she gets home again 😦   Can’t imagine what that would be for.

These weekends of kinky strict fun are a good way of playing out a complete BDSM relationship whilst still doing the same things we would normally do.   I can’t ever see us doing it 24×7 and the complete attention to detail is a bit OTT.  I do like the aspect of the instant punishments/spankings even though they hurt at the time and I think we should extend these more into our DD relationship.   Even if we only make one rule or goal for a week, we should agree to it and comply with it and spankings when we don’t.  That would be my preferred DD – a immediate punishments when they are earned, no need to keep records or reminders and some sensible rules or plans to help up acheive our goals.

Time for discussion with Mistress while we create some sensible goals and plans.

Meet The New Addition


Lady C has a new implement in her collection.    I got it for her as a birthday gift.   Its very similiar to her favourite HOH Strap, but with one major difference – instead of a cold heartless black rubber it is a nice warm tan leather.

I don’t have any pictures of yet, infact I’ve not handled it in any way so far and only seen it from a distance.   I have only felt it across my bum.    That’s kind of the way I want it to stay.   It’s Lady C’s strap and its only purpose is to punish my bum.

Lady C liked it on its initial outing.   It makes a nice red colour she said.   And that what I thought from my side too.   It thumps down like the HOH Strap, but gives a lot of sting and heat whereas the HOH Strap is almost more numbing.

I think it needs a nickname – we can’t call it the new strap or the leather HOH Strap.    Last week it was the birthday basher but that can’t last.   We’re open to suggestions, but it now gives more meaning when it is mentioned that my bum is going to get tanned.

Not quite had the full details from Lady C as to her thoughts about and where it will feature in the discipline and maintenance procedures, nor had a chance to fully experience it on a fresh bottom without a recent punishment.   That time will come soon enough.

Normal Maintenance


After yesterday’s extra strength maintenance it was back to normal this morning for the last but one mainenance session catchup.

The combination of maintenance in the morning along with the daily fitting of a Dicktator is good combination and sets me up for a full day of working around the house and sorting things out.   Dicktator is always a gentle reminder of HOH’s power and control and feeling the fading tingle and heat from her strap makes for a contented Disciplined Boyfriend.

I’m thinking that HOH and I need to discuss further about doing more of this when she is working and I’m off – most weekends.   A quick maintenance strapping in the morning and a day spent in Dicktator waiting for my beloved HOH to rush home.   Its not hard to implement or endure and the end results can only be good for the house, us and the DD lifestyle.

 

Getting Started In Domestic Discipline Part 3


The first two parts have been consolidated here and are probably most of what any beginners to DD need to know.   In this part I’m going to finish up by discussing Boot Camps and some other bits and pieces that don’t really fit in anywhere else.

Boot Camps

We don’t do these correctly, however who’s to say any other way is wrong either.   The purpose of Boot Camps is to have, usually, a weekend set aside when you do nothing except talk, act and sleep Domestic Discipline.   It is an opportunity to establish the HOH and take each other out of their own comfort zones.   By this I mean you will get a punishment that is very hard by your own standards or in the case of HOH have to administer it.    Trust me its harder than it sounds from both sides.

When we do boot camps we tend to have a week when maintenance is performed daily and every task or rule is taken to extremes and punishments dished out accordingly.   For us the idea is to get us back into the way of the DD routine and making sure things gets done.

However you choose to do it is entirely up to you, but do take the time to plan it out in advance and if spending an entire weekend, make sure that you don’t need to stop to go out and goto the shops or have any other things that get in the way.  For us, our weekends are precious to us and we don’t want to give them up by staying in the house all weekend.

Other Hints and Tips

Whatever you make your DD arrangement is entirely up to yourselves.   I’ve given some ideas from what we do and have found to work for us.  Its up to you to find what works for you.

Getting the rules recorded is definately something that needs to be done.  Having a strong HOH who interprates them is also important.

Don’t make up rules on the fly, think about them before hand and agree to them and try and stick to them.

Allow yourselves days off – days when you both agree you’re not going to engage in DD.

Allow flexibility in the rules and review them to ensure that they’re actually what you want to do.

Take punishment time seriously.   It is meant to deter future bad behaviour and should do so.   For the punisher, you have more than your partners consent to punish – your partner WANTS or NEEDS you to punish to acheive goals.   Don’t let them down.   For the punishee – as just mentioned you want your partner to punish you so help you acheive your goals.   Don’t be suprised when you get a call for a punishment – it is for the greater good.

Don’t let not being in a mood for a spanking get in the way.  This is not for sexual relief.

Remember this is within a loving relationship to achieve goals, don’t let it become abuse.

Initially, start with a few rules and keep them simple.   Add rules later once you get into the way of things.

How you interprate the rules is entirely up to individuals and moods.   Some go for a complete strict approach with absolutely no allowances, others go for a more relaxed approach.   We tend to stick to the relaxed approach most of the time.

Punishment time is also something that couples do differently.  Some like a weekly assessment and perform punishments at this time, whilst others like to act immediately or at the first convenient time – “Wait ’till I get you home”.    Having the best of both works too.   An immediate punishment as soon as the offence is committed, with a weekly to cover all the others.   There is also the option of having a punishment BEFORE any offence might be committed to encourage good behaviour.   Imagine you are both going out to a dinner party and you don’t want your partner getting too drunk again as they did last time… You get the idea.

Punishments don’t need to be limited to spanking bums.

Above all, don’t let anyone tell you that you’re doing it wrong.   Your Domestic Discipline arrangment is yours to do what you want to do, however if you want advice, then ask.

And lastly, enjoy your new Domestic Discipline lifestyle.   It can be rewarding, even humbling after a punishment when you both get together hug, kiss and make up.   It takes a lot of stresses and tensions out of the relationship.     You may also find that you say sorry a bit more too.

Enjoy,

A