A New Approach


We’ve taken a new approach to our lifestyle.  There’s a few motives for this, but some of the more important ones are that C sometimes really doesn’t know what I want and that our existing rules and procedures are way to complicated.

When C asked me what it is I want her to be, I couldn’t answer and tried a multiple of times to get my thoughts down on paper.  Did I want her to be Lady C the mischeivous dominatrix, HOH the disciplinarian, or C the loving wife?

So after a few weeks of contemplation I came up with a new scheme where we’re going for a Female Led Relationship.  There’s a few rules – six in total – but nothing that C is going to need to remember except that I’m around to give her the details if she needs.  The first two rules are “C makes the rules” and “C is always correct”.   With these she can do anything and say anything she wants and I have to put up with it.   She gets to decide how and when she performs discipline, when maintenance is going to be and if and when reminders will be served.

So far she’s taken to the new approach with ease and able to transition between nasty HOH and Lady C.  Instead of the implement of the week, there is now an implement in the hall cupboard for downstairs use and one on the chest of drawers in the bedroom for upstairs use.   She decides when she’s going to change them and I get no say in the matter.

Within hours my bare ass was in the air to receive the bedroom one – I think it was more to try out her new powers.  I’ve been locked in chastity for a day (and night) just because she was going to be out late that night.   And just to shake things up a bit, she toasted my ass with her favourite strap one morning as maintenance.

This is stuff I like, the randomness of it all, expect the unexpected and the dominant things she says.  More importantly it should put a stop to me trying to top from the bottom and that really annoys her.

Overall it makes our lives easier and more fun as we don’t need to arrange any BDSM sessions.  We just live like a normal couple except that I can expect to be dominated, locked in chastity, spanked (fun), punished and disciplined.   It should mean that there is no bad feelings (except towards that evil strap) and they’ll be more tasks done around the house.

A

Implement of the Week


This will be this week’s instrument of punishment. Specially an implement will be chosen every week for My Disciplinarian to punish me. The details of the punishments have still to be worked out, but the implement of the week will be used.

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There’s a nice hook been recently installed close to our front door which will in our moments of privacy be used to hang said implement upon. It’ll be one of the first things to be seen walking into the house or navigating between lounge and kitchen.
I have selected the following implements to be available: Auntie Strap, HOH Strap, 3H Tawse, 2H Tawse, 2M Tawse, Glasgow Strap, Dominator Strap, Senior Dragon Cane, Loopy Johnny and Boudoir Paddle.
I’ve not decided on the selection process yet. I may choose them myself, Lady C may get to choose, or I may even be open to suggestions from the readers here. The implement will be changed at the same time as we change our bathroom towels, so that should be easy to remember.
The first implement will be the auntie strap, but before it can be put into use I’m going to need to do some thinking about the punishments. Of course, these are my rules for me, and in no way restrict Lady C from doing her own thing in addition to them. I would hate to think that I was overruling her 😉

Look What’s Waiting


Sometimes when I walk through the door I want to see a strap or tawse lying on the table.  It’s like a statement that simply says your ass is going to get spanked soon.  Maybe even a couple of times.

Or imagine a strap laid out in every room you go into?  That can only mean a lot of spankings.

And then once the strap starts warming up to the task in hand, its not such a good thing.

Wonder what’ll happen the next time I walk through the door?

 

A Little Reminder


For a week we had a trial of something slightly different in the DD campaign.  HOH would provide a “reminder” about our tasks and goals for that day.  That reminder took the form of laying across HOH’s knee whilst she nagged and questioned about what we were going to achieve or, in the case of the pub, not going to do.  With a tautly stretched bot and the boudoir paddle applied in time to the nagging it got the message across and overall was a success.

We been talking about this again this week and how its so much better than maintenance. Actually I think its maintenance albiet under a different name.   The idea behind it is that it is preventative and helps to achieve the goals by encouragement before failing.  It works for both of us as it helps us remember every day what our goals are. Lady C is also thinking about ceasing maintenance in favour of daily reminders.

Last night we had another reminder session.   HOH also wanted me to choose the implement – “not for me to choose My Darling HOH, but it has to be a nagging implement”.   She flirted with some of the nasty ones, but ended up with the red heart shaped paddle and got off very lightly with a massage more than a spanking.   Compare that to six with her HOH strap.

Question is should HOH use her strap for daily reminders or continue with a lessor implement like the Boudoir Paddle or should it be on a day by day basis?

Unfortunately we overdid it a bit last night and managed to conviently forget our goals and targets for the day.  But it was a special occasion and HOH did state that she was being kind.  I’m sure that mistake will not be made again.

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Spot The Strap


A couple of months ago I placed one of C’s straps out in our shed just in case there was a spanking emergency. C couldn’t spot it, can you?  I think it needs to be moved before the damp weather makes it heavier and nastier.

I actually like the idea of having various straps around the house so that C can sort out any discipline in an instant.  A nowhere to hide from DD type arrangement. Perhaps we’ll try that for a week.

We will, of course, need to remember to return them all to the central strap repository when we expect friends or family around.

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Maintenance With Attitude


For a while now I’ve wondered what it would be like to get the HOH Strap at full strength.    HOH has delivered a few at full strength before but only towards the end of a punishment and my ass is already throbbing.

I suggested that she performs maintenance as normal except that each stroke would be full on and not the measured 25% or 50% that she normally give.   “Are you sure?”, she asks.   “Yes”, well I was at the time.  Since maintenance has been overdue every week this year so far and this we are catching up and today is maintenance day so it should be something a bit special.

“Then that’s how it’ll be”, she says.

This morning she left for the shower with the instructions to be ready for her coming back.   Maybe she’ll have forgotten last night’s conversation I though.  Better get ready and in position anyway.   So I got ready on my elbows and knees with bum raised and strap laying across the small of my back and waited there with the bed covers still over me.

HOH walks back into the room and puts the main lights on and pulls back the covers.    Without any further delay she lifts the cold strap and with the other hand pushes me on the back urging me to stick my bum out slightly more.

“It was to be Maintenance with Attitute, wasn’t it?”,  Ok, she’s not forgotten so I kept in position not moving and said nothing.

Maintenance is normally six strokes with the HOH Strap.    The first stroke landed square across my ass, just at the really sensitive crease.   “Too low” muttered Lady C, “too damnned accurate and sore” I though.  What a difference to the usual strokes.   The others rained down, most didn’t land squarely, but number five was spectacular – just a bit higher and the first – and then because number six was another mishit she repeated it.

“Oooh, that’s toasty warm, isn’t it?”

Normally a strapping with the HOH Strap takes a discrete time for the heat to develop, but today was instant and the redness appearing not far behind.

At the time I thought that Lady C needs to practice a bit and perfect her harder strokes.   Funnily enough she send a message on her way to work that she needs practice.    During a punishment she seems to be able to do it no problem and I’ve watched over my shoulder as she gets into a rhythym and gives it her all.

Perhaps I should set up the video camera and we can strive towards perfection so that the mere mention of some hard strokes sets my pulse racing.   That’s my Darling Disciplinarian.

I Got Away With It


Self Maintenance is complete.  HOH Strap was used by me on my bare ass for the purpose of maintenance.

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Not Quite A Sore Bum


Yesterday I suggested to HOH that there was an outstanding punishment and that it was now Punishment Time.   HOH accepted the reminder and presently I was invited to go and lie across the benchboard. Continue reading

Punishment Time


Just over a week ago I mentioned here that I had refused maintenance and upset HOH. Continue reading

I Asked For A Spanking


I wanted C to spank me.   It went something like this.   “After dinner you NEED to spank my ass”.   “Oh yeah, how would you like me to do that?”.   “Great, I get a choice?” Continue reading