Holiday Fun


It’s that time of year again to enjoy our annual holiday together.  I do like not having to do the same old dull schedule and instead get to do new, fun and exciting things in strange, unexplored locations.
I always feel that it gives us a new dimension to be a bit more risque. What better than the anonymity of a hotel room for a spanking knowing that someone might be listening at the door, or discussing the merits of male chastity at the bar or poolside?
I’m not quite ready in the vanilla world to go blatantly displaying my striped ass or naked in the sauna wearing only a Dicktator and a smile, but I do look forward to being able to crank it up a bit.

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Being Good


One important thing I promised was that I would not try and influence Lady C by telling her what not to do and when she should do things.

Do you know how difficult that is?  How can I tell her that all is well and I would like lots more?

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FLR Rules in Action


A very nice example of our new FLR rules in action occurred today.   Just to recap I wanted C to be the all loving, all strict, disciplining, yet sexy fun and devious Mistress and Wife.

Today I made a simple error using my not-so-smart phone and allowed the autotype feature to use the wrong form of you/you’re.

Lady C decided that she would teach me the different between the two spellings and usage with her paddle.

As though she needs an excuse to paddle my ass!

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FLR Rules


As hinted at here – the detailed rules.  Enjoy.

Rules:

  1. C makes the rules
  2. C is always correct
  3. Obey all C’s rules and commands
  4. Discipline for non-compliance of rules
  5. Maintenance as and when C decides
  6. Reminders as and when C decides

Guidance:

  • Do obey all rules
  • Do not cause any distress, upset or torment
  • Do not talk back, argue or be pedantic
  • Do not question commands or decisions
  • Do not fail in commands or tasks
  • Do not fail in your own tasks or goals
  • Do expect to be disciplined frequently
  • Do not criticise discipline, maintenance or reminders

Discipline:

  • On the bare bum – straps, tawses, paddles, canes, slipper or Loopy Johnny
  • On the hands – long straps or tawses only
  • On the balls – spanking, punching, kneeing or any other discomfort
  • Punishment Dicktation – minimum of 3 days

Overall Guidance:

  • If in any doubt, rules 1 & 2 apply

A New Approach


We’ve taken a new approach to our lifestyle.  There’s a few motives for this, but some of the more important ones are that C sometimes really doesn’t know what I want and that our existing rules and procedures are way to complicated.

When C asked me what it is I want her to be, I couldn’t answer and tried a multiple of times to get my thoughts down on paper.  Did I want her to be Lady C the mischeivous dominatrix, HOH the disciplinarian, or C the loving wife?

So after a few weeks of contemplation I came up with a new scheme where we’re going for a Female Led Relationship.  There’s a few rules – six in total – but nothing that C is going to need to remember except that I’m around to give her the details if she needs.  The first two rules are “C makes the rules” and “C is always correct”.   With these she can do anything and say anything she wants and I have to put up with it.   She gets to decide how and when she performs discipline, when maintenance is going to be and if and when reminders will be served.

So far she’s taken to the new approach with ease and able to transition between nasty HOH and Lady C.  Instead of the implement of the week, there is now an implement in the hall cupboard for downstairs use and one on the chest of drawers in the bedroom for upstairs use.   She decides when she’s going to change them and I get no say in the matter.

Within hours my bare ass was in the air to receive the bedroom one – I think it was more to try out her new powers.  I’ve been locked in chastity for a day (and night) just because she was going to be out late that night.   And just to shake things up a bit, she toasted my ass with her favourite strap one morning as maintenance.

This is stuff I like, the randomness of it all, expect the unexpected and the dominant things she says.  More importantly it should put a stop to me trying to top from the bottom and that really annoys her.

Overall it makes our lives easier and more fun as we don’t need to arrange any BDSM sessions.  We just live like a normal couple except that I can expect to be dominated, locked in chastity, spanked (fun), punished and disciplined.   It should mean that there is no bad feelings (except towards that evil strap) and they’ll be more tasks done around the house.

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Spanking Pants


I’ve written about spanking pants a few time before.    We’ve even made some crude ones.  Lady C ripped the backside out of a pair of boxers that were due for the scrap head and I’ve cut a square out of another pair.

But now we have a proper pair of spanking pants bought from here.   They’re actually very confortable and hold all my bits in place as well as plumping up the rear cheeks ready for Lady C attentions.   See if you can spot the difference in the pictures below?

BeforeNextAfterThe first was before Lady C got started with that evil wooden paddle that I made for her.  Just a few light taps she says.  That’s not how I felt it.   Then HOH decided that the tawse was required to answer for some minor breach of rules.  Together it was all a bit toasty.

Chains and Bonds


Property of Lady C

Property of Lady C

Property of Lady C

Property of Lady C

It’s official, I’m now completely “owned” by Lady C. I now have a tag around my neck that shows that I’m her property. Its actually a lovely piece of jewellery made from titanium and laser engraved. The other side has a barcode with my SLRN. There’s also a matching ring, just incase I should forget who’s in charge.

There are similarities between those two and my other treasured pieces of jewellery: the wedding band that normally is worn with pride on my finger and the neckchain where it resides when I can’t wear it.

Spanking Bench


For a while now I’ve wanted a spanking bench.  Something that will be used only for spankings, so if it is out then you kinda know whats coming next.  The main reasons for wanting is that I tend to wriggle out of the way and Lady C takes that as a sign that I want it to stop – well I do cause its starting to hury, but I also want her to carry on regardless.  With a properly design spanking bench I would not be able to wriggle out of the ways and my bum would still be awaiting more punishment.

Some of the more important criterion that the bench should have are that it needs to be lightweight, easy to carry and assemble, yet small enough to not take a lot of space when stored in a cupboard or under the bed.   It should present the buttocks nicely taughtened and provide support for the body, legs and arms with suitable restraints to keep everything in place and out of the way.  It should also be comfortable, and nicely padded so that it doesn’t cause the occupant any uneccessary pain allowing both an extended spanking on the bench and to focus entirely on the pain being inflicted on their bum.

I also thought it could have hooks for hanging the implements on and maybe even a small board for keeping a tally.  Other enhancements could be a timer or this gadget that I made.

Any of the designs I’ve seen on the web are all very expensive and it looks like it’ll need to be a home build.  Ideally it would be made out of metal, either tubes or rectangular hollow section, but I don’t have many metal working tools and not access to a welding machine, so its probably going to be made out of wood.  Easier to work with and nice and warm to the touch approaching something of a bit of furniture.

If anyone knows of plans, then I would appreciate a copy or pointed in the right direction, otherwise my busy schedule will get even busier by getting my drawing board and pencils out.   I did find this site which should be useful to anyone trying similiar projects.

His and Hers


I’ve made a few of these drip mats, these ones are currently on our dining room table.  And yes, that’s exactly what occurs.

His and Hers