The Cruel Mistress


We have a new device.  The Master Series Cock Shock is an electro-sex device is designed to fit around the base of the cock, whilst the remote control goes in the hand of the dominant.

The remote has four buttons and two switches.   The switches are on/off and high/low volume.   The most harmless button is for an inbuilt LED in the remote, it seems that every toy has to have a LED in them these days and I can’t see much use for it except to perhaps try and get the person wearing the shocker’s attention.

The next button just makes causes a buzzer to sound, volume dependent on the volume switch.   Button three causes a vibration as long as its held down – nice.

The fourth button is cruel and when pressed this releases a really nasty shock leaving the wearer not wanting more.

Cockshock remote and shocker

So far Mistress hasn’t really used it for anything more than a quick press.  Let me state categorically that this is not one of these lame TENS devices, this is a real shock.

When you’re not expecting it, even the vibrate function causes you to jump, but still nothing close to the shock when it is delivered.

One thing I’ve noticed when I’ve got this on is the instant transformation of my behaviour, no back chatting, proper replies, making sure that Mistress is addressed properly and doing things promptly as soon as the command is given.

On the down side the shocker times out after 3 minutes to save the batteries, however motion will wake it up again ready for action.  There’s two LEDs on the shocker – a red and a green – which show when its awake.  Not much use when there’s clothes on top of it.

We’ve done some research and found that a 45 degree turn in a particular direction is enough and Mistress has also discovered that punching, or grabbing that particular area does the same.   Continuing to send vibrations or shocks also keeps it alive.  We’ve not tried with the buzzer or the torch, and it may turn out that this works too.

The instructions aren’t really helpful – OK they tell you how to put the battery and how to pair the remote with the shocker and then “fit it to your slave…”   I’ve discovered the hard way that with the shocker sitting underneath the shocks are not as bad as when its on top.  Probably something to do with the extra layers of skin, muscle and whatever else is down there.   When the shocker was mounted upwards the whole shock sensation was so much stronger and it felt like it travelled all the way to the tip.   I reckon that this would be able to destroy any erection used in this way.    So far its always been a “hands off”, but I’m sure Mistress would be able to pick up the remote and the shocker and just hold it against me and get the same effect, just a lot quicker.

For longer term or permenent use this is far from ideal.  The velcro is uncomfortable and is easily removed by the wearer.  A better solution would be a lockable ring and obviously not have the auto-switch off function.  Even better if the motion of the wearer could be harnessed to charge the batteries.   I am aware of the “Dream Lover 2000” but its very expension in comparison.

We’ve named this the “Cruel Mistress” as its active and cruel as opposed to the Watchful Mistress chastity device which is completely passive.   Its ideal for any Mistress who wishes some obedience training and I cannot imagine any man wearning one of these would ever press that button more than once.

The Cruel Mistress is now one of Lady C’s favourites and now threatens me with a shocking experience or zapping when I’m misbehaving.

Being Good


One important thing I promised was that I would not try and influence Lady C by telling her what not to do and when she should do things.

Do you know how difficult that is?  How can I tell her that all is well and I would like lots more?

A

FLR Rules


As hinted at here – the detailed rules.  Enjoy.

Rules:

  1. C makes the rules
  2. C is always correct
  3. Obey all C’s rules and commands
  4. Discipline for non-compliance of rules
  5. Maintenance as and when C decides
  6. Reminders as and when C decides

Guidance:

  • Do obey all rules
  • Do not cause any distress, upset or torment
  • Do not talk back, argue or be pedantic
  • Do not question commands or decisions
  • Do not fail in commands or tasks
  • Do not fail in your own tasks or goals
  • Do expect to be disciplined frequently
  • Do not criticise discipline, maintenance or reminders

Discipline:

  • On the bare bum – straps, tawses, paddles, canes, slipper or Loopy Johnny
  • On the hands – long straps or tawses only
  • On the balls – spanking, punching, kneeing or any other discomfort
  • Punishment Dicktation – minimum of 3 days

Overall Guidance:

  • If in any doubt, rules 1 & 2 apply

A New Approach


We’ve taken a new approach to our lifestyle.  There’s a few motives for this, but some of the more important ones are that C sometimes really doesn’t know what I want and that our existing rules and procedures are way to complicated.

When C asked me what it is I want her to be, I couldn’t answer and tried a multiple of times to get my thoughts down on paper.  Did I want her to be Lady C the mischeivous dominatrix, HOH the disciplinarian, or C the loving wife?

So after a few weeks of contemplation I came up with a new scheme where we’re going for a Female Led Relationship.  There’s a few rules – six in total – but nothing that C is going to need to remember except that I’m around to give her the details if she needs.  The first two rules are “C makes the rules” and “C is always correct”.   With these she can do anything and say anything she wants and I have to put up with it.   She gets to decide how and when she performs discipline, when maintenance is going to be and if and when reminders will be served.

So far she’s taken to the new approach with ease and able to transition between nasty HOH and Lady C.  Instead of the implement of the week, there is now an implement in the hall cupboard for downstairs use and one on the chest of drawers in the bedroom for upstairs use.   She decides when she’s going to change them and I get no say in the matter.

Within hours my bare ass was in the air to receive the bedroom one – I think it was more to try out her new powers.  I’ve been locked in chastity for a day (and night) just because she was going to be out late that night.   And just to shake things up a bit, she toasted my ass with her favourite strap one morning as maintenance.

This is stuff I like, the randomness of it all, expect the unexpected and the dominant things she says.  More importantly it should put a stop to me trying to top from the bottom and that really annoys her.

Overall it makes our lives easier and more fun as we don’t need to arrange any BDSM sessions.  We just live like a normal couple except that I can expect to be dominated, locked in chastity, spanked (fun), punished and disciplined.   It should mean that there is no bad feelings (except towards that evil strap) and they’ll be more tasks done around the house.

A

A Nastier Punishment


Recipe: a brisk warm-up, the main event, and 6 of the best.
The brisk warm up is not quite the nice easy start to make your bum heat gradually and be more receptive to the main event. Think of it more as a nasty spanking to get you quickly to the point where you want it to stop so that every subsequent stroke in the main event will be quite ouch.
The main event could be a strapping, tawsing, caning or paddling. And then just when you think it’s all over, there’s a six of the best still to come. Each stroke to be hard and stingy with Lady C nagging just to make sure the message has got through. The six is just a title and doesn’t actually reflect the number of strokes that will be delivered as every spanking will be tailored to suit the level of punishment required.
So the punishments has mostly been described, it’s time to give some thought about my goals and rules. That’ll be the next post in My Disciplinarian series.
A

Implement of the Week


This will be this week’s instrument of punishment. Specially an implement will be chosen every week for My Disciplinarian to punish me. The details of the punishments have still to be worked out, but the implement of the week will be used.

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There’s a nice hook been recently installed close to our front door which will in our moments of privacy be used to hang said implement upon. It’ll be one of the first things to be seen walking into the house or navigating between lounge and kitchen.
I have selected the following implements to be available: Auntie Strap, HOH Strap, 3H Tawse, 2H Tawse, 2M Tawse, Glasgow Strap, Dominator Strap, Senior Dragon Cane, Loopy Johnny and Boudoir Paddle.
I’ve not decided on the selection process yet. I may choose them myself, Lady C may get to choose, or I may even be open to suggestions from the readers here. The implement will be changed at the same time as we change our bathroom towels, so that should be easy to remember.
The first implement will be the auntie strap, but before it can be put into use I’m going to need to do some thinking about the punishments. Of course, these are my rules for me, and in no way restrict Lady C from doing her own thing in addition to them. I would hate to think that I was overruling her 😉

The Disciplinarian


Disciplinarian : a person who is very strict about punishing bad behavior : a person who uses discipline as a way of making sure that rules or orders are obeyed.

I want Lady C to be my own personal Disciplinarian.  I need this, I want this.   I want her to help me achieve my goals through a set of goals and rules – my rules, my goals.   When I struggle to meet my goals or even to get started on them that when Lady C has to be the Disciplinarian.

Of course, just having my rules would be selfish.  Lady C needs rules too and I’m quite happy to have her enforce them too.  That’s the basis of consensual Domestic Discipline.

I’ve not decided as this point what my goal and rules are going to be, but as usual they need to be achievable and be measurable.  I see the rules as being very changeable and dynamic.  There’s lots of examples – I need to make a plan today, I don’t want to drink any more than 3 pints of beer on a particular night or I want the kitchen kept to a level of tidyness.

I’m also going to suggest some punishments and encouragements, because after all their my rules.  However, if Lady C wants to use her own or enhance mine, then I have no problem with that.

This is nothing new to us, just a refresh as to our commitment to DD and each other.

Time to go and figure out what I want to achieve with my life this week…

A

A Visual Deterrent


There’s nothing like a tawse lying out waiting to be used to act as a visual deterrent.

We goto the pub way too much, we drink way to much also.  Tonight we’ve came up with an idea to “help” us.   The original suggestion was along the lines of if tonight is not an agreed scheduled pub night then a tawse will be laid out as a visual deterrent.

The deterrent being whoever suggests that we go for a drink gets the business end of the tawse applied.  For Lady C this will be one stroke either on her bare bum or on her hands – she gets to choose at the time.   For me it will be strokes of the tawse probably on the hands in addition to some other nasty strap on my bum.

C took this suggestion and suggested that a two tailed tawse would mean no pub, whilst the three tailed one would mean a no alchol night.

We’d better put the tawse away soon, don’t want it lying out tomorrow just incase we want to go out, or worse still C might just fancy using it just for the fun of it 😦

Double Domestic Discipline


It was only a few days ago when I was thinking what the point of persevering with Domestic Discipline when we hadn’t done anything remotely DD.  It was looking like we should just call it a day and rip up all our rules and procedures. There has been no maintenance since mid December and no talk about it, no planning and definately no punishments.

The house looks like there’s no discipline in it.  Things are left strewn all over the place and there’s no plan to address all the things that need to be done.

And then, this morning when I least expected it, HOH pulls the bed covers off me and commands me into the “present” position.  This morning of all days, the morning when we did not expect to get a full nights sleep as C was due at the airport at a very unreasonable time.  

Maintenance usually means six measured strokes from her beloved HOH Strap.   Each finds its place squarely across my ass cheeks and with it the instant sting, the heat comes later.   After one or two I find myself wanting them to stop as this position really stretches my bum taut and gives absolutely no possibility of me clenching or Lady C missing.  They are never at full strength and I’ve always wondered what the evil strap would feel like if HOH felt like putting some effort into it.  Would a single stroke cause me to emit a squeal and immediately jump upright whilst my hands try to rub the pain away?

The strokes start and possibly are a bit quicker than usual.  After the sixth stroke landed I thought that was that and proceeded to get back into my usual sleeping position again without waiting for HOH to tell me that I could move again. “We’ve got a lot of catching up with Maintenance to do, so present again you’re getting more”.

Reluctantly I got back into position, well to be truthful I didn’t quite get my back arching quite as much as it should, and HOH delivered another six strokes.   Maybe it was the position that wasn’t as perfect or it could have been HOH feeling sorry for my bum, but these six didn’t feel as hard as the first six.   Once that was over it was definately time to snuggle back in as C demanded a cuddle.

So our first venture into DD this year turned out to be double maintenance.   On reflection it was nice in a different way.  It made me feel wanted and loved, something that’s been missing for a while.   Somehow I think HOH will be planning more to catch up with the four outstanding maintenance sessions.  Maybe the next time I’ll be writing about Triple Domestic Discipline.

A

How Strict Is Your HOH


How strict is your HOH, or just as importantly, how strict do you want them to be?    Sometimes I want HOH to be quite relaxed and basically lazy.  That allows me to be lazy too and when we’re like this we’re usually lazing about the house or visiting the pub.    Not really the reasons we started DD, but every now and again we need to be like this to recharge and whilst not doing anything about we do talk and thing of grand plans.

The opposite end of the scale would be complete strict bitch.   I looked at the defination of strict here. Just what every HOH should be – “Demanding that behaviour concerning behaviour are obeyed and observed.”    Another word to look at is stern – “… serious and unrelenting, especially in the assertion of authority and excercise of discipline”.

Somewhere in the middle is the more fair HOH – one who can made a judgement that although things didn’t get completed there was a valid reason or someting else was done instead.   This is probably where we should be most of the time, but aren’t.

I want C to be the strict and stern HOH from time to time.   When she’s in this mood it means I’m focussed and we achieve things.  Its not quite boot camp but just turns up the DDness a bit.  With this in mind, I set out and fabricated the HOH-o-meter.

HOH-o-meter

I’ve got some games spinners – they cost pennies from Amazon – but they’re just the spinner.  I was surprised how many there were in the bag when I only wanted one or two.    I screwed one of them to a piece of laminate board we had left over and it accepts dry marker or white board pens.   Around the spinner I’ve written “Easy”, “Fair” and “Strict Bitch”.   The idea is not to spin the arrow and take your chances but to point at how I want HOH to be.

It was initially a bit of fun, but I think we can take this further and allow either of us to up the ante when we notice that things are standards start to fall again.

I’ve also made some other things with the spinners, they were most definately for play.   Two spinners, the first marked with plastic/rubber, wood, leather and the other with short+light, long+light, short+hard, long+hard.  Spin each to discover something to do – plastic/rubber could be a chastity device, C’s HOH Strap or the ball crusher, wood could be the humbler or a paddle and leather could be any of our tawses/straps or some fetish leather wear.   I made a serious design flaw by putting long+hard at the bottom. Holding it up to show C what I’d made it continually stopped spinning at long+hard.    Best used on a flat horizontal surface.

Whilst the HOH-O-Meter is a bit of fun I do want C to take the serious strict bitch role more sometimes.   Its still too easy to put off doing tasks and chores and by the end of a week we’ve achieved nothing again except to fill the recycling with wine bottles and fill the pub tills with cash.    I think the strict bitch Lady C and I need to look closely at our goals again, not the long term ones, but the short term ones.  What do we need to do this week or today? Also the flip side of that is – what should we not do this week?

How strict and stern do you want your HOH to be?