I’ve written about spanking pants a few time before. We’ve even made some crude ones. Lady C ripped the backside out of a pair of boxers that were due for the scrap head and I’ve cut a square out of another pair.
But now we have a proper pair of spanking pants bought from here. They’re actually very confortable and hold all my bits in place as well as plumping up the rear cheeks ready for Lady C attentions. See if you can spot the difference in the pictures below?
The first was before Lady C got started with that evil wooden paddle that I made for her. Just a few light taps she says. That’s not how I felt it. Then HOH decided that the tawse was required to answer for some minor breach of rules. Together it was all a bit toasty.
For a while now I’ve wanted a spanking bench. Something that will be used only for spankings, so if it is out then you kinda know whats coming next. The main reasons for wanting is that I tend to wriggle out of the way and Lady C takes that as a sign that I want it to stop – well I do cause its starting to hury, but I also want her to carry on regardless. With a properly design spanking bench I would not be able to wriggle out of the ways and my bum would still be awaiting more punishment.
Some of the more important criterion that the bench should have are that it needs to be lightweight, easy to carry and assemble, yet small enough to not take a lot of space when stored in a cupboard or under the bed. It should present the buttocks nicely taughtened and provide support for the body, legs and arms with suitable restraints to keep everything in place and out of the way. It should also be comfortable, and nicely padded so that it doesn’t cause the occupant any uneccessary pain allowing both an extended spanking on the bench and to focus entirely on the pain being inflicted on their bum.
I also thought it could have hooks for hanging the implements on and maybe even a small board for keeping a tally. Other enhancements could be a timer or this gadget that I made.
Any of the designs I’ve seen on the web are all very expensive and it looks like it’ll need to be a home build. Ideally it would be made out of metal, either tubes or rectangular hollow section, but I don’t have many metal working tools and not access to a welding machine, so its probably going to be made out of wood. Easier to work with and nice and warm to the touch approaching something of a bit of furniture.
If anyone knows of plans, then I would appreciate a copy or pointed in the right direction, otherwise my busy schedule will get even busier by getting my drawing board and pencils out. I did find this site which should be useful to anyone trying similiar projects.
A few weeks ago I talked about things I like to hear during a spanking. This post is about the non speech things.
Having Mistress remove the last layer of clothing is good. Feeling hands slipped into each side of your waistband and pull down says she means business.
Being tapped on the bum or hips by the cane to adjust the position is always necessary.
Seeing an implement selected and out ready for use gets the heart beating.
Pointing at the bed, chair or wherever the spanking is to take place.
Sometimes seeing Mistress clothed normally for a punishment. For fun, a pair of stiletto heels is a must.
Mistress must give the air of authority and give the impression that the spanking is effortless to her and there’s plenty in reserve. There must be an air of simplistic elegance and totally relaxation.
Playing with the implement. Canes and crops should be flexed and given trial swishes. Tawses and straps should be held in both ends and flexed or held around Mistresses own ass, or around the neck. Paddles can be slapped against the other hand and tapped against any hard surface.
The hand on the small of the back that says you ain’t getting up yet.
I’m sure there’s more, but that all I can think of at this point. Do you have any?
This weeks implement of the week is our short tan leather strap, affectionally know to us as Auntie. Well this week she has been very busy, most of which I can remember what for, but none-the-less busy. She was extremely busy the night after we went to the pub and I said something to C that caused her to give me the look and had the bar staff running away too.
Tan Leather Strap
The one thing I didn’t get any punishment was the C’s day off when a delivery man came to the door. C remembered to move the strap to somewhere safe but forgot to move the sign above it. She doesn’t know if he saw it or not, but she wasn’t happy about it. The words say “There shall be but one Mistress here and no master” – a quote from Elizabeth Tudor and “A good spanking starts when the recipient wants it to stop” – another of my favourite quotes. Below the strap is one of these nice signs that your mums, aunts, friends and daughters give you. You know the thing about what make a happy house, recipe for love etc.
What else would make HOH happier than a respectful and obedient partner under the harsh rule of a strap?
Tomorrow will be Auntie’s last day while a new implement is chosen. I suspect she’s going to have one last trip across my bum as C dishes out some retribution for arriving very late and keeping her waiting.
Recipe: a brisk warm-up, the main event, and 6 of the best.
The brisk warm up is not quite the nice easy start to make your bum heat gradually and be more receptive to the main event. Think of it more as a nasty spanking to get you quickly to the point where you want it to stop so that every subsequent stroke in the main event will be quite ouch.
The main event could be a strapping, tawsing, caning or paddling. And then just when you think it’s all over, there’s a six of the best still to come. Each stroke to be hard and stingy with Lady C nagging just to make sure the message has got through. The six is just a title and doesn’t actually reflect the number of strokes that will be delivered as every spanking will be tailored to suit the level of punishment required.
So the punishments has mostly been described, it’s time to give some thought about my goals and rules. That’ll be the next post in My Disciplinarian series.
So what happens with the Implement of the Week? For quick on the spot punishments it’s conveniently placed where it can be used. The quick punishment will be a minimum of eight strokes with the Implement on the bare bum. If it’s a tawse then it can be used to strap my hands – maximum of two strokes per hand.
This will be this week’s instrument of punishment. Specially an implement will be chosen every week for My Disciplinarian to punish me. The details of the punishments have still to be worked out, but the implement of the week will be used.
There’s a nice hook been recently installed close to our front door which will in our moments of privacy be used to hang said implement upon. It’ll be one of the first things to be seen walking into the house or navigating between lounge and kitchen.
I have selected the following implements to be available: Auntie Strap, HOH Strap, 3H Tawse, 2H Tawse, 2M Tawse, Glasgow Strap, Dominator Strap, Senior Dragon Cane, Loopy Johnny and Boudoir Paddle.
I’ve not decided on the selection process yet. I may choose them myself, Lady C may get to choose, or I may even be open to suggestions from the readers here. The implement will be changed at the same time as we change our bathroom towels, so that should be easy to remember.
The first implement will be the auntie strap, but before it can be put into use I’m going to need to do some thinking about the punishments. Of course, these are my rules for me, and in no way restrict Lady C from doing her own thing in addition to them. I would hate to think that I was overruling her 😉
Disciplinarian : a person who is very strict about punishing bad behavior : a person who uses discipline as a way of making sure that rules or orders are obeyed.
I want Lady C to be my own personal Disciplinarian. I need this, I want this. I want her to help me achieve my goals through a set of goals and rules – my rules, my goals. When I struggle to meet my goals or even to get started on them that when Lady C has to be the Disciplinarian.
Of course, just having my rules would be selfish. Lady C needs rules too and I’m quite happy to have her enforce them too. That’s the basis of consensual Domestic Discipline.
I’ve not decided as this point what my goal and rules are going to be, but as usual they need to be achievable and be measurable. I see the rules as being very changeable and dynamic. There’s lots of examples – I need to make a plan today, I don’t want to drink any more than 3 pints of beer on a particular night or I want the kitchen kept to a level of tidyness.
I’m also going to suggest some punishments and encouragements, because after all their my rules. However, if Lady C wants to use her own or enhance mine, then I have no problem with that.
This is nothing new to us, just a refresh as to our commitment to DD and each other.
Time to go and figure out what I want to achieve with my life this week…
That’s our latest venture in Domestic Discipline, otherwise known as SSS DD. Its that time of year when we have almost permanent house guests and even getting the house to ourselves for 5 minutes for maintenance is impossible. Therefore we have thought up the Super Strict, Swift and Silent.
The straps and paddles make a lot of noise and it would be heard by inquisitive souls, therefore they are out. Loopy Johnny is relatively quiet and good for a quick couple of lashes. The small OTK cane is also quite quiet as is the crop. We haven’t used either of there for a while. The tawse on outstretched hands is another although it makes a slight noise – a noise that could be disguised by the TV or radio. The other major benefit is that it requires no undressing making it very swift to administer.
Swift was taken to mean, that any infraction was to be dealt with almost immediately. Now if in company that’s not always easy to do, however although we have guests we find ourselves in the back of the house in the dining room or kitchen alone quite a bit. For these occasions, Lady C can do some quick CBT, or its only ten steps out the french windows to the shed where it is possible to make slightly more noise. And who’s going to notice spanking noises coming from a shed? We’ve placed a strap out there just ready for use – I thought it was almost in clear view, but Lady C took the best part of 15 minutes to find it. The challenge was if she could find it, she could use it. Still waiting for that to happen.
So that’s the swift and the silent. The strict was a desire for Lady C to take note of absolutely everything I say or do and be able to find some fault with it. Lady C is still not as strict as I would like sometimes, there’s always that thing where she wants to be nice to me after a bad day at work. We’ll need to work on that one.
So today we find ourselves exploring the quiet and private places in our house with a list of outstanding punishments that need to be addressed. What better way to spend a rainy day?
The last couple of weekends we’ve been having some play – C plays the extra strict picky dominant one and I do the other bit. When I mean picky, I mean really picky. For example are the knives and forks put on the table the way that C likes them; are the salt and pepper in a straight line; was the wine poured neatly.
Last weekend, I had to address C as My Lady, this weekend she decided that Mistress was to be her preferred form of address. I get my full first name. In company C is known as the quite vanilla My Darling (HOH). There are, of course, lots of spankings. Some just because C wants to, others for not quite meeting C’s standards.
Yesterday, I managed to accumulate a spanking in the time it took to pickup C from her work and return home – namely not shaving for her. Once back in the house she inspected the bathroom with I had cleaned – not good enough she says. By the time we got to the bus stop on the way to the pub I managed to get another for telling C (or Mistress) to “get over it”. She really doesn’t like me using that phrase and visibily bristles.
Once home after a quick couple of drinks I start getting the spankings. The first one using her new strap on my hands and knees on the floor with Mistress straddling me as she straps down my cheeks – ouch. Just before dinner is served she invites me to lie over the table whilst she straps me with the Glasgow strap – not the best performance as there’s not enough room so I think I got off lightly. Last one was when we retired to bed lying flat on my tummy as she strapped with the new strap again, again a bit easier on my ass when its not stretched.
She’s already promised me another spanking tonight after she gets home again 😦 Can’t imagine what that would be for.
These weekends of kinky strict fun are a good way of playing out a complete BDSM relationship whilst still doing the same things we would normally do. I can’t ever see us doing it 24×7 and the complete attention to detail is a bit OTT. I do like the aspect of the instant punishments/spankings even though they hurt at the time and I think we should extend these more into our DD relationship. Even if we only make one rule or goal for a week, we should agree to it and comply with it and spankings when we don’t. That would be my preferred DD – a immediate punishments when they are earned, no need to keep records or reminders and some sensible rules or plans to help up acheive our goals.
Time for discussion with Mistress while we create some sensible goals and plans.