An All Over Spanking

Then plan yesterday was for a nice spanking.  Start with an over the knee hand spanking and then changing to paddle and hairbrush and when getting to much revert to the hand again.

That’s not what I got 😦    I exceeded my quota of beer at the pub and Lady C dispatched me to get the 2H Tawse and gave me six quick strokes on the bare bum.   Then she realised that they were meant to be on the hands so I was sent to fetch the more nasty 3H Tawse.    She gave me three on each hand whilst lecturing me and saying I would be getting lots more punishments and lots less beer.    Time taken to go upstairs, fetch the tawse, use the tawse, take it back and return back downstairs was less than 3 minutes 30 seconds.  Who says there’s no time to deliver a spanking?  If the Tawse in the hall cupboard was requested it would have been a lot quicker.

Back to the main spanking though.   I wanted a bit of ritual and requested that I was blindfolded before having the necessary clothing removed.   Then it was time to lay over those silky thighs for the hand spanking, She must have taken off some layers too because that was bare lap I was feeling.   After a bit it was onto the boudoir paddle.   That’s so much easier once there’s been a warmup, although six strokes with a tawse on the bare is hardly a nice warmup.  After the boudoir paddle it was time for the hairbrush and on it went for a couple of minutes.

She then lead me upstairs, still blindfolded, where She announced there was to be a mystery implement of Her choice.   I lay on the bed as She encouraged me to stick my bum out.  “Come on”, she says, “show me how much you like me spanking you”.   “Come on you can get it higher than that”.     Little did I realise at the time that it was not for my benefit but for Hers.  A stuck out bum is way easier for her to spank hard.   It was just at the point when she had stopped rubbing and pushing me down to arch my back that the big nasty wooden paddle crashed down.   Ouch, as it was laid across my cheeks.   She spanked slow and hard, then fast and furious continually telling me that I made this paddle just for Her and how I wanted Her to use it on me and it was just so perfect and it fitted her hand perfectly, was well balanced and that I knew I wanted to feel it hard.

That was the signal for her final strokes.   Six really hard ones on an already well spanked bum.   Then it was over and time to consummate the spanking.

Happy Spankings,


I Want A Spanking

Sometimes I crave spankings.  Nice spankings, and not the horrible punishments that the Bitch Strap is used for.   I mentioned before that Lady C does not do warm-ups and goes straight to burning, stinging throbbing pain.  Therefore I think I want one the nice spanking starting with over the knee hand spanking to gently warm the cheeks before going the next level with the paddle.  Next, a more kinkier I want her to straddle me and spank down each check until there’s a slight wriggling going on and then maybe spank a bit harder, faster, or even both.   Then to the finale with one of the lesser used straps to make the pink glow turn to red and leave me ready to consummate the spanking with a nicely reddened bum.

How do I get such a spanking?  Easy.   I just need to ask Lady C to do it for me.  She’s always happy to oblige.   However, it doesn’t always turn out how I wanted it.  She just takes advantage of the situation and does her own thing, usually heavy handed with her Mistress Strap or a nasty Tawse.   Its so much easier for her if I willingly present my bum to her than her demanding that I get into position.

I should be careful want I wish for, however secretly I do like when she takes control of a situation and enforces the FLR. But I wouldn’t have it any other way.


I have fantasies, lots of them.   In them the scenarious are quite varied and the main characters in them are women.  Some involve having one or more women spanking me, or watching me get a spanking or some or dominant role either singly or encouraging Lady C.  There’re other submissive ones involving women pointing and laughing, or just curious about seeing my penis safely locked away in a chastity cage.  The key thing here is that they are all women based fantasies.  No big surprise here as that is my normal sexual orientation.

In the past Lady C has revealed some of her fantasies, and guess what?   Yes, her’s involve men, however not quite in the way you may initially suspect.   In her fantasy she has another couple, and wants to see me wank and suck cock, even take the full load of semen in my mouth.   Its not a sub/dom type thing, I get exactly the same.  She’s intrigued to see if a man can do it better than a woman and if I would be able to tell the difference.   Of course like all fantasies there are a few blurred moments and how would she be able to watch the boys action when the girls would be at either?

I must admit the first time she told me about this I was mildly curious.  We men do get quick looks at each other’s penises in toilet and sports changing rooms, but not to the extent of getting up close and exploring another cock.  I’m way more familiar with the naked female body than another mans and I do like the feel of boobs pressing against my back or having her rub her crotch against my body I have never experienced a hard cock press against my back, face or any other part of my body.

We decided to explore these thoughts again recently and it didn’t take long before Lady C had the strap-on on and was trying to get Lusty Leo or Roger Ramrod, or whatever its called, balls deep in my mouth.   “Take it all”, she encourages.   Possibly one of the most dominant/submissive things we’ve done.  Me on my hands and knees with my cock caged, sucking until my jaws hurt on cock with my dominant wife looking down on me with a superior smile.

I asked her what happened at this point in her fantasy, did one of the women get a strap-on and take me in the ass.  “Nope”, she says, “remember the girls are busy playing with each other”.

“But that would be super subby, wouldn’t it, seeing me with a cock in my mouth and one in my ass being spit roasted?”, I asked, “Especially when caged”.   Remember being caged in the company of others is one of my things.#

Next thing my back was arched and my ass lubed up and Lady C was pressing the fallus against my bum hole and starting to thrust her hips.  This time I’ve got another dildo in my hands and sucking on it for all my worth.  Wow, how powerfull.  OK, this dildo is actually a model of my own cock with the “clone-a-willy” kit.   We played like this for a bit with Lady C telling me how much I like cock and I’m a complete slutty subby and this is the only hard cock I’m going to have as I’m still caged.

After a bit we changed positions so I was on my back on the side of the sofa with my legs lifted up out the way and Lady C was back between my legs nudging 5″ of latex cock up my ass again.   Difference with this position is that we are now face to face and can see each other’s expressions.   She has the view of hard cock in my ass, small caged cock and hard cock in my mouth.

We stopped after a bit and Lady C had obviously enjoyed herself thoroughly as she was very wet and demanding my tongue between her legs.   With that duty taken care of we chatted about it afterwards.  For chat, think more interrogation as my arms were restrained and the cock-shock fitted.   Wrong or unacceptable answers = zap.   First question was “How did you like that?”.   My answer was a bit long winded discussing the dominant / submissive elements of it and my body reaction was to dribble pre-cum despite being caged.   I got zapped as all she wanted to here was a yes or no answer.  “Guess that’s a yes then”.

“Will we ever be able to fufill this in real life?”    We’re both quite private with our sex lives and there’s no way we could do this locally.  The other couple in the fantasty are faceless there were no other significant features, although typing this up now I can think up my perfect woman with boobs, legs, cute ass, face and hair.   So, unless we end up on some faraway beach holiday and find a like minded couple in the hot tub this is going to remain a fantasy for us, athough I think Lady C’s strap-on will be a more regular thing in the future.    After it all I was so horny and desperate to have an orgasm that I negotiated a hard caning and further chastity to get my face splattered with my own cum.

FLR Rules in Action

A very nice example of our new FLR rules in action occurred today.   Just to recap I wanted C to be the all loving, all strict, disciplining, yet sexy fun and devious Mistress and Wife.

Today I made a simple error using my not-so-smart phone and allowed the autotype feature to use the wrong form of you/you’re.

Lady C decided that she would teach me the different between the two spellings and usage with her paddle.

As though she needs an excuse to paddle my ass!


A New Approach

We’ve taken a new approach to our lifestyle.  There’s a few motives for this, but some of the more important ones are that C sometimes really doesn’t know what I want and that our existing rules and procedures are way to complicated.

When C asked me what it is I want her to be, I couldn’t answer and tried a multiple of times to get my thoughts down on paper.  Did I want her to be Lady C the mischeivous dominatrix, HOH the disciplinarian, or C the loving wife?

So after a few weeks of contemplation I came up with a new scheme where we’re going for a Female Led Relationship.  There’s a few rules – six in total – but nothing that C is going to need to remember except that I’m around to give her the details if she needs.  The first two rules are “C makes the rules” and “C is always correct”.   With these she can do anything and say anything she wants and I have to put up with it.   She gets to decide how and when she performs discipline, when maintenance is going to be and if and when reminders will be served.

So far she’s taken to the new approach with ease and able to transition between nasty HOH and Lady C.  Instead of the implement of the week, there is now an implement in the hall cupboard for downstairs use and one on the chest of drawers in the bedroom for upstairs use.   She decides when she’s going to change them and I get no say in the matter.

Within hours my bare ass was in the air to receive the bedroom one – I think it was more to try out her new powers.  I’ve been locked in chastity for a day (and night) just because she was going to be out late that night.   And just to shake things up a bit, she toasted my ass with her favourite strap one morning as maintenance.

This is stuff I like, the randomness of it all, expect the unexpected and the dominant things she says.  More importantly it should put a stop to me trying to top from the bottom and that really annoys her.

Overall it makes our lives easier and more fun as we don’t need to arrange any BDSM sessions.  We just live like a normal couple except that I can expect to be dominated, locked in chastity, spanked (fun), punished and disciplined.   It should mean that there is no bad feelings (except towards that evil strap) and they’ll be more tasks done around the house.


Spanking Bench

For a while now I’ve wanted a spanking bench.  Something that will be used only for spankings, so if it is out then you kinda know whats coming next.  The main reasons for wanting is that I tend to wriggle out of the way and Lady C takes that as a sign that I want it to stop – well I do cause its starting to hury, but I also want her to carry on regardless.  With a properly design spanking bench I would not be able to wriggle out of the ways and my bum would still be awaiting more punishment.

Some of the more important criterion that the bench should have are that it needs to be lightweight, easy to carry and assemble, yet small enough to not take a lot of space when stored in a cupboard or under the bed.   It should present the buttocks nicely taughtened and provide support for the body, legs and arms with suitable restraints to keep everything in place and out of the way.  It should also be comfortable, and nicely padded so that it doesn’t cause the occupant any uneccessary pain allowing both an extended spanking on the bench and to focus entirely on the pain being inflicted on their bum.

I also thought it could have hooks for hanging the implements on and maybe even a small board for keeping a tally.  Other enhancements could be a timer or this gadget that I made.

Any of the designs I’ve seen on the web are all very expensive and it looks like it’ll need to be a home build.  Ideally it would be made out of metal, either tubes or rectangular hollow section, but I don’t have many metal working tools and not access to a welding machine, so its probably going to be made out of wood.  Easier to work with and nice and warm to the touch approaching something of a bit of furniture.

If anyone knows of plans, then I would appreciate a copy or pointed in the right direction, otherwise my busy schedule will get even busier by getting my drawing board and pencils out.   I did find this site which should be useful to anyone trying similiar projects.


That’s my standard bratty reply to Lady C.  I use it when I want to rebel and say no, but actually want her to up the ante.

Deep down it means acceptance but not too the point of total obedience. What would be the fun in that?

Meanwhile a big thank you to Lady C for posting my Ode To Mistress Valentine when I had no access to WordPress xx


Things I Like To Hear

There’s some things as a spanko I just love to hear.   Depending on your status you probably say them too or have heard them.   Generally outwith a spanking scenario they set my pulse racing and send kindle some excitment in my loins.

Probably my favourite is “Just wait ’till I get you home” with “You’re going to suffer for that”.  Others include “I’m going to warm your ass”, “You won’t be able to sit down for a week”, “Go fetch my strap”, “Get your naked ass onto the bed and in the air”, “Higher, nice and taut for the strap”, “You’re really going to get it now”, “I’ve just started, there’s plenty more where that came from”, “Your ass is nice and red”, “All  nice and toasty” and “That’s going to welt”.

For me, they’re all part of the discipline process, without them wouldn’t be the same.   What’s you favourite?


The implement in action


This is this week’s implement of the week. Surprisingly this is where it has been most of the time and not heating my bottom.

It has been taken off it’s hook twice. Once just because Lady C thought she fancied some fun and the other when I hadn’t put some laundry in the machine.

I thought that the spankings would be in the room where we were at the time, but Lady C decided she wanted my bum bare and high in the air on our bed.

The second spanking consisted of only 4 strokes. That’s a lot less than C normally gives, but each was a well delivered hard stroke that caused me to gasp. Damn, she’s getting too good with these straps and tawses. I’m not sure if be able to take much more of them.

As the weekend approaches, it’ll be time to choose a new implement of the week. I wonder what that’ll be or even who’s going to choose.


Hot Bot Day

It’s quite frosty and Lady C has offered to keep my bottom warm all day.  As I’m going to be in and out of the house all day it’ll mean that they’ll be quite a few warmings.  And, getting your bottom warmed when it’s cold is very stingy.