Totally FLR Day 3


Our totally FLR weekend continues a bit slower after a hard night of partying.  Lady C managed a few dominant things last night when we were out with friends.

Actually just the organisation of it all was exactly the kind of FLR stuff I was after.  It started with “We’re going out tonight for dinner with friends then we’re going to this pub” or similiar wording.  She had decided on our behalf that was what we were doing and what restaurant we were going to eat at.   Just as a FLR should be.  Friday night was similiar – you’re taking me to the pub and we’re coming home after the football has finished.

Now, just wondering what totally submissive things I can perform for her entertainment before the weekend is over.

Have fun.

A

Totally FLR


We have a FLR (female led relationship). That means Lady C makes all the decisions or should. 

This weekend, as we’re both together alone and not working I suggested that we (she) make it a totally FLR one.  A educational weekend  where she teaches me how to be obedient, respectful, not to be cheeky, restraint, confinement, discipline and reward.

As this is a prearranged play and not our normal lifestyle I feel I can make comment. So far it’s been all about her, only thing is she keeps threatening nasty implements…. And not using them.

We have drawers full of implements and devices, some very expensive, some antique and collectors items, ranging from titillating to encouragement to deterrent to nasty punishment. Why are they not used more?

A

Every Now and Again


Every now and again I get an urge.  I’m sure others get them too.  Today’s urge, however, is for Lady C to have fun with my balls.

Squeeze, pull, slap, punch, knee or kick.  Any would do.

Yes Day


We’ve taken one of our readers, Shilo, idea of a yes day.  You know the thing, everything has to be answered “yes”.  Except when I suggested it to Lady C, she assumed that we would both be saying yes, not only from each other but from everyone else too.

Not quite what I had in mind, so what we’ve came up with is alternate hours.  I have to say “Yes Lady C” on the odd hours, and on the even ones, Lady C has to climb down from her pedastal and say “Yes A”.

Its still very early in the day so far, but we’ve had some fun with this already.   “C, goto the bathroom and prepare my shower for me, get the water nice, my shower gel and toothbrush ready for me”.  “Yes A”.

Just wait ’till later in the day when we can really have some fun 🙂

A

FLR Day


In celebration of our new FLR lifestyle, we’re having a FLR day.

We’ll go over how well we’ve done in the last few days and what parts we need to work on.  I have nice request for Lady C to wear her thigh length boots, basque/corset and wave a riding crop menacingly.   My penis is really securely locked in our new chastity device – the Watchful Mistress.

We’ll have some fun, some champagne and see if we can keep a smile on Mistress’s face all day 😉

A

Holiday Fun


It’s that time of year again to enjoy our annual holiday together.  I do like not having to do the same old dull schedule and instead get to do new, fun and exciting things in strange, unexplored locations.
I always feel that it gives us a new dimension to be a bit more risque. What better than the anonymity of a hotel room for a spanking knowing that someone might be listening at the door, or discussing the merits of male chastity at the bar or poolside?
I’m not quite ready in the vanilla world to go blatantly displaying my striped ass or naked in the sauna wearing only a Dicktator and a smile, but I do look forward to being able to crank it up a bit.

A

Being Good


One important thing I promised was that I would not try and influence Lady C by telling her what not to do and when she should do things.

Do you know how difficult that is?  How can I tell her that all is well and I would like lots more?

A

FLR Rules


As hinted at here – the detailed rules.  Enjoy.

Rules:

  1. C makes the rules
  2. C is always correct
  3. Obey all C’s rules and commands
  4. Discipline for non-compliance of rules
  5. Maintenance as and when C decides
  6. Reminders as and when C decides

Guidance:

  • Do obey all rules
  • Do not cause any distress, upset or torment
  • Do not talk back, argue or be pedantic
  • Do not question commands or decisions
  • Do not fail in commands or tasks
  • Do not fail in your own tasks or goals
  • Do expect to be disciplined frequently
  • Do not criticise discipline, maintenance or reminders

Discipline:

  • On the bare bum – straps, tawses, paddles, canes, slipper or Loopy Johnny
  • On the hands – long straps or tawses only
  • On the balls – spanking, punching, kneeing or any other discomfort
  • Punishment Dicktation – minimum of 3 days

Overall Guidance:

  • If in any doubt, rules 1 & 2 apply

A New Approach


We’ve taken a new approach to our lifestyle.  There’s a few motives for this, but some of the more important ones are that C sometimes really doesn’t know what I want and that our existing rules and procedures are way to complicated.

When C asked me what it is I want her to be, I couldn’t answer and tried a multiple of times to get my thoughts down on paper.  Did I want her to be Lady C the mischeivous dominatrix, HOH the disciplinarian, or C the loving wife?

So after a few weeks of contemplation I came up with a new scheme where we’re going for a Female Led Relationship.  There’s a few rules – six in total – but nothing that C is going to need to remember except that I’m around to give her the details if she needs.  The first two rules are “C makes the rules” and “C is always correct”.   With these she can do anything and say anything she wants and I have to put up with it.   She gets to decide how and when she performs discipline, when maintenance is going to be and if and when reminders will be served.

So far she’s taken to the new approach with ease and able to transition between nasty HOH and Lady C.  Instead of the implement of the week, there is now an implement in the hall cupboard for downstairs use and one on the chest of drawers in the bedroom for upstairs use.   She decides when she’s going to change them and I get no say in the matter.

Within hours my bare ass was in the air to receive the bedroom one – I think it was more to try out her new powers.  I’ve been locked in chastity for a day (and night) just because she was going to be out late that night.   And just to shake things up a bit, she toasted my ass with her favourite strap one morning as maintenance.

This is stuff I like, the randomness of it all, expect the unexpected and the dominant things she says.  More importantly it should put a stop to me trying to top from the bottom and that really annoys her.

Overall it makes our lives easier and more fun as we don’t need to arrange any BDSM sessions.  We just live like a normal couple except that I can expect to be dominated, locked in chastity, spanked (fun), punished and disciplined.   It should mean that there is no bad feelings (except towards that evil strap) and they’ll be more tasks done around the house.

A

Chains and Bonds


Property of Lady C

Property of Lady C

Property of Lady C

Property of Lady C

It’s official, I’m now completely “owned” by Lady C. I now have a tag around my neck that shows that I’m her property. Its actually a lovely piece of jewellery made from titanium and laser engraved. The other side has a barcode with my SLRN. There’s also a matching ring, just incase I should forget who’s in charge.

There are similarities between those two and my other treasured pieces of jewellery: the wedding band that normally is worn with pride on my finger and the neckchain where it resides when I can’t wear it.