We’ve taken a new approach to our lifestyle. There’s a few motives for this, but some of the more important ones are that C sometimes really doesn’t know what I want and that our existing rules and procedures are way to complicated.
When C asked me what it is I want her to be, I couldn’t answer and tried a multiple of times to get my thoughts down on paper. Did I want her to be Lady C the mischeivous dominatrix, HOH the disciplinarian, or C the loving wife?
So after a few weeks of contemplation I came up with a new scheme where we’re going for a Female Led Relationship. There’s a few rules – six in total – but nothing that C is going to need to remember except that I’m around to give her the details if she needs. The first two rules are “C makes the rules” and “C is always correct”. With these she can do anything and say anything she wants and I have to put up with it. She gets to decide how and when she performs discipline, when maintenance is going to be and if and when reminders will be served.
So far she’s taken to the new approach with ease and able to transition between nasty HOH and Lady C. Instead of the implement of the week, there is now an implement in the hall cupboard for downstairs use and one on the chest of drawers in the bedroom for upstairs use. She decides when she’s going to change them and I get no say in the matter.
Within hours my bare ass was in the air to receive the bedroom one – I think it was more to try out her new powers. I’ve been locked in chastity for a day (and night) just because she was going to be out late that night. And just to shake things up a bit, she toasted my ass with her favourite strap one morning as maintenance.
This is stuff I like, the randomness of it all, expect the unexpected and the dominant things she says. More importantly it should put a stop to me trying to top from the bottom and that really annoys her.
Overall it makes our lives easier and more fun as we don’t need to arrange any BDSM sessions. We just live like a normal couple except that I can expect to be dominated, locked in chastity, spanked (fun), punished and disciplined. It should mean that there is no bad feelings (except towards that evil strap) and they’ll be more tasks done around the house.